Folks, don't become like this guy

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Man plays piano to win back the lady he loved only to end up being punched in the face:

https://metro.co.uk/2017/09/12/piano-ma ... d-6920857/

https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/relation ... 4047620213

This is an old story but I thought this was very interesting and pretty odd to think playing a musical instrument would make a woman want to come back to you after she breaks up with you. They were also only together for only 4 months.

I think this fella had been watching too much romantic film where characters stalk a woman and wins her love. Just like how on film, you can assault someone and no consequences or point a gun at someone and no consequences but in real life, that would get you arrested.

But after reading around, it seems like this man had learned his lesson and didn't realize how this would look after he saw that he went viral on social media and got all these accusations.

I guess that's what one gets for making a real gesture in the real world instead of using Facebook.

What’s creepy is that someone responded violently to this.

People should be able to recognize that giant corporations keeping every detail of their personal lives on endless stacks of servers is more creepy than amy one person; the social media monopolies turned the tables on people like this guy.

We all pretend private citizens are the creepy ones now, just for aspiring to something, then turn around & cough up every juicy detail of our lives to mystery apps.

tl;dr it is creeping me out that you're more offended by love songs than domestic violence.

Why all this hate towards dudes who just want to do something with their lives?

It is VERY common for singers & bands to write songs about their failed relationships & how much they want their exes back. The only thing that is newsworthy about the piano guy's story is that the woman decided to punch him in the face for it. Nobody directly mentioned this yet so I'll point out the elephant in the room & come rite out & say/post it. If the genders in this story were reversed, people would of been in an uproar about that poor love sick woman who got the cr@p beat out of her by her abusive ex & the guy would of been arrested & face serious legal trouble & possible prison time. However in the real story the piano guy got accused of being a stalker & people think he deserved it. I'm a male feminist & this sexism makes me sick. NOBODY deserves to be punched in the face when they are not physically hurting or assaulting someone. I was bullied a lot in elementary school including being physically beat up & hurt. I was harmed physically by guys & by girls & most all my teachers & principles believed it was my fault because I somehow encouraged violence against me when my intent was NEVER to hurt anyone until they started physically hurting me.

The news story does not actually say who punched him, just that he "was punched in the head." So it's not clear whether he was punched by his ex-girlfriend or by one of the many disapproving onlookers.

One of the news stories contains a link to this story which spells out, in more detail, why the author considers the man's behavior to be "creepy."

I see her points and tentatively agree with her, but I think she might be rushing to judgment. I would want to know more about the history of the relationship, and the reasons why she broke it off, before making a judgment. (I can imagine some possible scenarios under which the behavior would not be creepy at all, as well as other scenarios under which it would be extremely creepy.) Here in this thread, cberg has raised some good points too.

In any case, the fact that so many people on social media shared this story and rushed to judgment about it is just one example of the mob mentality fostered by large-scale social media.

It worked for Howard.

I saw it as a very romantic gesture.

I travelled 12 hours, round trip, to locally post a letter to my first girlfriend.
Needless to say, she was *very* impressed.

Let's face it.
She just wasn't into him.

From what I understand, social media is a sewer and full of people who like to tear other people down.
I don't have a Facebook or a Twitter account.

Man did I offend people again, thanks for reminding me why I don't post many threads anymore.

I only posted this because this man got crap on social media for it and got compared to an abuser and comments were saying this was consistent to abusers. He says this was not his intent to come off as creepy so I believe him.

Sure musicians write love songs for their ex's but do they really show up at their work place or home or school and play all hours of the day and night to try and get them back or do they just move on and leave their ex alone?

And yes I have been harassed before by a guy because he won't take no for an answer when I was not interested in our friendship. I even had a man online who was once asking me for my phone number over and over and said he wouldn't stop until I give it to him so I just blocked him. I was 18. And I had another guy who was begging me for my phone number like a five year old so I blocked him too. But this online "friend" I had kept coming back under different screen names after I would block him because he wouldn't accept "no" and respect my boundaries.

So I can understand why women would find this to be creepy what this fella did. This man was practically begging to have her come back and wouldn't accept "no." But he stopped when he realized how this looked to the rest of the world. He thought he as being romantic, he wasn't.

There have been women that have gotten harassed and stalked by their ex's because they wouldn't accept their relationship is over and they kept trying to get them to come back to them so of course this man got flack for it.

And someone only punched him because they got tired of hearing the piano every night.

I have to agree this guy was harassing his ex. Grand public displays are a form of manipulation. Also I didn't read anywhere that it specifically said the girlfriend punched the guy so I don't think it was 'domestic abuse' as some have claimed.

What works on TV doesn't usually work in real life, and television usually perpetuates unhealthy relationship concepts from generations that now have extreme divorce rates.

OK it didn't work but she (or whoever) shouldn't have punched him in the face for it.

I haven't read anywhere were it specifies he was punched because he was trying to 'win' his ex back. All it says is someone punched him at 4 am. I can think of a few reasons whey someone might do something like that at 4 am to someone making a racket.... . I'm not advocating for physical violence, but getting punched is probably better than having the cops called.

I read in another article it was someone on campus that did it because they got sick of hearing him play every night and the assault happened at 4 am. If you google his name and google "piano man playing on college campus to win back ex," you see a bunch of articles popping up about this incident.