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holymackerel
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20 Nov 2020, 2:07 pm

Since my diagnosis, it is something that seems like it would be really right for me. I understand people with autism way more than NTs and I always had this feeling of unmatched expectations to anyone that I normally consider. I like the idea that I might have my first proper relationship if I meet someone at uni next year. This wouldn't be possible if I didn't have my diagnosis.



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20 Nov 2020, 2:40 pm

It's not possible for me to live in Cornwall---though I wouldn't mind living there.



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20 Nov 2020, 2:45 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
It's not possible for me to live in Cornwall---though I wouldn't mind living there.


I love living in Cornwall. It's a truly beautiful place. I sometimes forget being stuck indoors all day, but when I drive across the county the views remind me how lucky I am. You could offer me a Visa to live anywhere in the world and i would turn you down every time.



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20 Nov 2020, 5:25 pm

Don't eat her please.



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20 Nov 2020, 9:17 pm

While I am happy for your diagnosis and you gaining confidence in relationships again, I have to ask why do you have a "hunger" to date an aspie. While two people being on the spectrum does give them that common ground with each other, every aspie is different from one another. I have talked to other's on the spectrum(I'm on the spectrum as well) and the expectations of each individual varied about as much as NTs.

I'm telling you this not to bring you down or anything but for two reasons. 1. I don't want you to get too much hope that an aspie/aspie relationship will work and 2. I don't want you to possibly go in a relationship with an aspie with high expectations and essentially give the other aspie the same feeling you get when you date NTs. Some aspies expectations are really high, others are really low, be careful not to go in so starry-eyed that you lose yourself in the relationship.



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21 Nov 2020, 3:05 am

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I have got the hunger to date an aspie.


I'll give it a go.
Coffee and cake? :scratch: :mrgreen:



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21 Nov 2020, 3:22 am

AquaineBay wrote:
While I am happy for your diagnosis and you gaining confidence in relationships again, I have to ask why do you have a "hunger" to date an aspie. While two people being on the spectrum does give them that common ground with each other, every aspie is different from one another. I have talked to other's on the spectrum(I'm on the spectrum as well) and the expectations of each individual varied about as much as NTs.

I'm telling you this not to bring you down or anything but for two reasons. 1. I don't want you to get too much hope that an aspie/aspie relationship will work and 2. I don't want you to possibly go in a relationship with an aspie with high expectations and essentially give the other aspie the same feeling you get when you date NTs. Some aspies expectations are really high, others are really low, be careful not to go in so starry-eyed that you lose yourself in the relationship.


Well I am not 100% sure how It will go. It is just I would imagine someone with autism would have more accurate expectations of me.



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21 Nov 2020, 5:29 am

they are wonderful people if you really know them well