How to ignore someone who's perfect

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16 Dec 2020, 8:48 am

How are you meant to ignore a daughter of a family friend when the daughter of the family friend is gorgeous & has a lot in common with you in terms of hobbies/politics/lgbt stuff and a lot in common with your 'ideal woman' in terms of how she acts eg being a careful and loving woman who keeps thinking of others and has a playful sense of humour?

How do you start to pick up on her flaws so that rejection or her seeing someone else doesn't hurt so much?

Is it appropriate to seek someone out with similar qualities? Similar looks?

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18 Dec 2020, 1:15 pm

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I'm a bit confused as to what's going on here. Has she already rejected you, and/or is she already seeing someone else? Or do you think it's inevitable that she [i]would[/] reject you or see someone else, and, if so, why?

If not, why do you want to ignore her?

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Is it appropriate to seek someone out with similar qualities? Similar looks?

Of course it's appropriate. Why wouldn't it be?

(Although I'd focus less on looks and more on overall compatibility.)

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18 Dec 2020, 3:46 pm

If she's not the romantic partner of someone else, you have every right to pursue this person---but don't be really persistent about it

The "daughter of the family friend" is an adult-----so she's "fair game," so to speak.

How is the "family" about LGTB, etc issues?

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18 Dec 2020, 4:54 pm

I've been in this boat for awhile. I ended up making an attempt because I can't ignore her, I'm hoping good enough can be the boyfriend of perfect. :mrgreen:

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18 Dec 2020, 5:14 pm

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So you are saying she is already with someone else? :scratch:

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18 Dec 2020, 5:16 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

If she's not the romantic partner of someone else, you have every right to pursue this person---but don't be really persistent about it

The "daughter of the family friend" is an adult-----so she's "fair game," so to speak.

How is the "family" about LGTB, etc issues?

If the perfect woman is single, where is the problem?
Strange thread.

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18 Dec 2020, 5:17 pm

Mona Pereth wrote:

KT67 wrote:

Is it appropriate to seek someone out with similar qualities? Similar looks?

Of course it's appropriate. Why wouldn't it be?

(Although I'd focus less on looks and more on overall compatibility.)

Perhaps KT67 has been on the happy juice?

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18 Dec 2020, 7:19 pm

I like KT67. She's a person who doesn't pull rank on you owing to her education.

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20 Dec 2020, 9:12 am

Pepe wrote:

If the perfect woman is single, where is the problem?
Strange thread.

I know right :lol:

The problem is that that the perfect woman could have lots of options & could reject anyone who isn't perfect to her. It's easier to accept that you can not be with a person you know is perfect when you know they are taken.

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20 Dec 2020, 9:18 am

Pepe wrote:

KT67 wrote:

So you are saying she is already with someone else? :scratch:

Yeah already been rejected & she's already with someone else.

I want to know how to navigate my feelings in order for us to maintain a friendship.

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20 Dec 2020, 10:38 am

KT67 wrote:

Pepe wrote:

KT67 wrote:

So you are saying she is already with someone else? :scratch:

Yeah already been rejected & she's already with someone else.

I want to know how to navigate my feelings in order for us to maintain a friendship.

Well, the massive lockdown we're about to go into should be your saving grace. Just say you can't meet up with her due to covid rules and that will give you a bit of breathing space and time to get over it.

Time does help.

Finding things to occupy yourself with as well, so that you don't find yourself dwelling on her. If your thoughts go in that direction. Distract yourself. Put on a funny youtube video, or maybe a serious one that you have to concentrate on. Sign up to Duolingo and learn another language.

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21 Dec 2020, 2:51 am

Find her imperfections. Everyone has them.

45 days of no contact [if i remember correctly]. Double for aspies

Notice other beautiful people

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21 Dec 2020, 4:11 am

Yeah that's what I need to do, find her imperfections tbh.

And keep distance which is easy cos of lockdown.

It's just spooky stuff I keep focusing on. Weird coincidences that I probably share with someone I haven't even met yet or another friend, too.

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21 Dec 2020, 4:45 am

KT67 wrote:

That can be quite common to happen. It's a cool thing but not an indication you will work out with these people.

Sending strength to move on. c:

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21 Dec 2020, 5:07 am

Now I am curious to see this perfect person.

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22 Dec 2020, 10:09 am

^ He is hitting on you. c;

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