Have a thing for a girl. There's a twist........

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So, today was a really fun day. It was my dads wedding. I got to hand out out the rings. The wedding group consisted of 9 people. After the quick ceremony, we all took pictures and then went out to eat.

Anyways, one of the people on my new stepmoms side of the group is her niece, who is my age.

You all now know the purpose of this post..............

At the restaurant, I sat right across from her. Her and I talked about a few things. She's shown some positive signs like saying hi to me when she saw me at the hotel before the wedding(this is all out of state, btw)and at the dinner she asked me if I was gonna be at another get together tomorrow(Saturday).

Because of the obvious elephant in the room, right now I do not feel comfortable talking about my feelings for her to anyone besides the WP audience. I have no idea if she feels the same way I do, or if us being step cousins makes her not want to date me. It's just been nice talking to a pretty girl my age who doesn't appear to have a bf and I do hope that maybe her and I become a thing in the future. I've seen people share similar situations online and mostly people say that there shouldn't be a problem. I just wanted to share this here before I inevitably tell people I know personally.

Technically it's not an issue because you're not blood relatives and you're both adults.

I'm glad you had a nice day. I hope you will see her again soon.

The most important factor at “this stage” is the *frequency* of seeing that person. I’ve clicked with some women in the past during outings/social events but nothing came out of it because it happened only once or twice.

ie. Like for example, an acquaintance took you to a social event, you met someone (ie one of his friends) there you clicked with a lot - but that acquaintance stopped inviting you => you can no longer see that other person.

Yup.

BuT iT oNlY taKeS mEeTiNg SoMeOnE oNcE to change your whole life.

Awww

That's nice but she may be treating you like a step-cousin should socially. You may have to be clear about what you aim to do. There's no moral issue here. Be prepared - she may not have been expecting a romantic attraction from your end. If she friend-zones you or step-cousin zones you, don't fret - she may have some delectable friends for you to meet. Here a way to go about it: Say, "too bad we're related now, I find you utterly adorable and wish you could be my girl but I guess I'll have to settle for your unattached friends." Then wait and see what she says. If she offers a meeting with one of her friends, then she is not interested in you romantically. If she says,"Hey, we can go out! We're just "step-cousins"!" Then, that's good for you.

Yes! Yes! I agree. When I was about 18, I met a sweetheart of a Navy guy. He was SO NICE to me, I couldn't believe it. It DID change my life and self-perspective.

O boy, forget it...

I had a crush on a distant cousin once.

Franklin Roosevelt married his 5th cousin, who was also Theodore Roosevelt’s niece.

Grover Cleveland married a woman who was sort of like a “daughter” to him when she was a child.

It’s legal to marry your first cousin in most states....though it is socially frowned upon.

I wouldn’t get worked up at all if you started romancing this girl.

I'm glad you told us you have a thing for a girl first, before you tell others you have a thing for a girl.
But does the girl have a thing for you?
Only time will tell.
Be careful of wedding romances, you may end up in an eternal time loop.

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Confusion amongst the genders is a strong possibility.
Women tend to be clueless about about male amorous intentions.



That is the "code" I live by.
Well, used to live by.
Well, actually I never did, but I advise others to.



Sounds fairly sound, to me, except you might be corralling her into focusing on the relative connection.
On second thoughts, I wouldn't even talk about it. I.E. The connection is irrelevant.
If it *is* a dealt breaker, let *her* make that clear.

Your a fish.
Nobody takes what a fish has to say seriously.
When it comes to romance, you are a fish out of water.

Firstly, THEY ARE NOT GENETICALLY RELATED!! !
That's it.
That's all I got.

On second thought, ,
What does the climate change science say about this?

Yeah...

And there's plenty of fish in the sea.

Touché.