Dating people with similar interests

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I believe so. You must have some sort of common ground in order to start a relationship. Even those couples who people call 'total opposites' must have something they both enjoy doing together (besides sex ).

Having the same or similar interests IS important in a relationship. I don't see how any could last for very long if they liked nothing in common.

my views are basically the same as gwenevyn's - not sharing minor interests is not a problem, but there must be something in common so that you have something you can share, activities you can do together, conversation topics you're both knowledgeable about and interested in, etc. I also have a category of 'red flag' interests in other people, like fashion or Big Brother.
I disagree with those who say there is always some common ground - my experience is that with many people I can find no common ground whatsoever - we may both be carbon-based lifeforms, but that doesn't mean we have something to talk about.

I think having common interests/beliefs is more important than having similar personalities.

I voted "no". Given the fact that I'm ugly as hell, my only concern is that the girl I want to date is interested in me. Anything else is nice to have, but not required by any means.

i mostly agree with gwenevyn, except for one thing. my main interest is music. i'm the person she mentions for whom making music is their catagory 1 interest. i am going to attempt to make a career out of music. considering a romantic partner, i would prefer someone who was not a musician at all. the problem with music is that it's a multi-person activity. if you're dating another muso, they might want to play with you, and that can cause all sorts of problems (what if they're not good enough to play with you? what if you are working together on a project and you break up? what if you are already in a band with an attractive woman who plays the same instrument they do?). this one is obvious, but i think other big interests could cause similar problems.

so, people who share my biggest interest are automatically stricken from the list of potential partners.

i have a few black list insterests as well (sports, tv shows, celebrity gossip, stuff like that), and i think a similar taste in music is important in any relationships because listening to music is a big part of most people's day to day activities (if you're a metal guy and you're dating someone who's into country, that'll cause problems no matter how much else you have in common).

i think the really important things are that you have compatible personalities and run in similar social circles.

bc1 - can you imagine being with
someone whom music doesn't speak
to at all?

Specifically, I am looking for someone who likes the Simpsons and South Park as much as I do.

In a potential girlfriend, the Simpsons would represent her good sense of humor. South Park would represent open-mindedness, and a very good sense of humor. The open-mindedness represented by South Park stems from the plot lines (and in some cases, even the titles of the episodes), which are oftentimes controversial.

Tim

calandale- i've never met anyone who didn't like music. i don't know very many people (including muso's) who listen actively and i've learned to accept that that's not important to most people, so it doesn't bother me so much anymore when people like music and don't actually pay attention to it.

i would date someone who was deaf, for whom music was not part of their life at all.

I hate the whole Common Intrest principle. Because most people have that principle, it is the main reason I find it impossible to get a life partner.
I once had a similar intrest with a girl in which I had crush later. By then, I had already left that intrest and had a new one, which is why she turned me down.

It is so wrong. Altogether wrong.

If two people have common interests, then the relationship may not work after all.
It is communication that gives the relationship its fuel.
An equal personality is more important than common interests or beliefs.

For some reason I have a hard time imagining how I, personally, could relate to someone who didn't share any of my interests or opinions, because I'd have nothing to talk about with them. I wouldn't want someone with exactly the same interests, but there had to be SOME similarities.