Which option do you think is best?

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What choice would you chose?

I went with two. Being with someone you're not attracted to is way more miserable than being alone.

An option not listed: Adapt to whatever is available.  This is what I did, and it worked for me.

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Apparently I'm the only one that chose 1 so far. I don't see the point in just wallowing and deciding to never get into a relationship because your dating pool got smaller. I assume "attraction" means physical attraction though, since that seems to be all anyone talks about on here, as if nothing else matters...

The word "attraction" wasn't important to me.

I voted based on the fact he said "settle for .... " someone.

It's not fair to the other person. I wouldn't want to be someone's last resort.

I think whenever I read "settle for" on here my mind just ignores it, since I've seen people have a ridiculous view of what "settling" is (not having a partner with every physical and personality trait, like/dislike, life goal, etc. that they want).

I'd rather be single than settle for someone. Spending my life with someone I wasn't attracted to would just make me miserable.

I'd go for the not listed option 3 though, not give up but keep trying. There are more fish in the sea than one attractive woman who blows me off and those I don't fancy

I'd choose #2 because looks aren't everything.

I would def chose the 1st option. I'm sort of demisexual & I do NOT care about physical attraction the way most guys do. I do NOT get the love at 1st sight thing people talk about. I care about qualities that can take time to show & develop like being a decent respectable person, being compassionate, caring about animals & plant life, being reliable, being trustworthy, being supportive & going the extra mile to help out a friend or family member going through a rough time, being sweet & sensitive, being affectionate with romantic partners, being funny & making me laugh. I majorly HATED being single & I was extremely lonely. I was single for 8 years straight between my 1st & 2nd relationship without so much as a single date despite my best efforts. I really believed that I coulda made a relationship work with most anyone if she woulda been willing to give me a real chance. I know I am very far from perfect but I also know that I have lots of good qualities as well but extremely few women were willing to give me the chance & time that I needed in order for my good qualities to shine. It's only fair that I woulda been willing to give somebody the shot I wanted someone to give me. I know it may seem like settling at 1st but I do not think of it as settling because I woulda fallen for her after a bit if she treated me with decency & respect.

I notice that as well & what's really ironic is that the people who complain about settling the most on here are also some of the biggest complainers on here about being single It's like if they were unemployed & homeless on the street & they were offered lots of jobs & would turn every single one down because it is not their dream job People often say on here that desperation is a giant turnoff but I think think reeking of self-entitlement is the biggest turnoff of all. Then there's some on here like me who complained VERY OFTEN about being alone but I know that there is NO such thing as a perfect person. Any romantic relationship I would ever get would have some problems. The key is how I deal with them. I am not compromising myself by tackling them together with my girlfriend. Knowing I have someone to support me when there are problems or issues is a huge help. Also sometimes just accepting that there will be some things I dislike & some problems in our relationship can make them a lot easier to handle. Taking time & effort to notice & appreciate all the positives can majorly help me handle the negatives.


I would be fine with being someone's last resort. I was VERY desperate when I was single & I really like desperate women. We have something in common & can relate. Besides we would fall for each other after a while anyway so even if we are each other's last resort at 1st, we would become each other's 1st choice after a bit.

I don't understand. How can you be attracted to appearance only, and one type at that? This seems ridiculous to base your whole life on.

2, despite having been in a relationship with an NT.

^^^ this

Other than the fact that I'm a straight female, I'm really not copacetic with the options for me to choose.

Rather I have questions (and probably more depending on the answers). When we say 'attracted' do we mean in general or just physically? How do I know that everyone I like or would like has no attraction to me?_?

Hmm, as an asexual, I'm attracted to nobody, so have no choice here... I also dislike human personalities, since they are gross... So hermit it is then? :3

I went with one because that's what happened with my husband of 30 years. After I got to know him, I started to find things about him that were very attractive to me. Even to today, if any woman would EVER try to take him from me, I will %^&*#@ her face up. I adore him.