Am I too fussy ?

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While I have tried looking at some dating sites, I don't know whether I am too fussy when looking for someone because I seem to find myself swiping people I don't feel attracted too even though I they may seem to be very nice people, and I have said in a previous thread that I get few likes and views (sometimes only one or two) and when I do get a like I seem to think again that I am not attracted to that person and I look on their profiles about their interests and stuff and think they are more geeky than I am.

One site I just see the same people pop up while swiping and think they don't use it anymore and have forgotten to sign themselves off. I also seem to feel like I am attracted to people who may have less in common than I do. I find some blonde women very attractive and maybe I am generalising here and I apologise if I am but I seem to think that a fair haired man like myself is not as attractive to a blonde lady than a darker haired man.

I seem to think I am behaving more like this guy I saw on a TV show getting people with Autism and other disabilities to date where he aspired to find someone who looked like Melinda Messenger, an blonde british TV presenter and model and when he was arranged to meet someone who wasn't like that and his date had short dark hair, he wasn't interested and found her unattractive. I don't know whether I am being as unrealistic as he was.

I've had some people like my dad saying that maybe I am not trying hard enough and I feel frustrated that I seem to think that people I have dated more people than I have and that another reason I am single is also because I won't go to clubs because I don't the chart music they play sometimes, the amount of people in there and the flashing lights and because I have less friends and I don't go to them anyway because it seems awkward, weird and pointless going on your own so I don't bother and then by not doing it even though I don't like it, it leaves me feeling like I'm missing out because its what is expected if you want to meet new people otherwise if you don't you'll end up staying single and obviously no one is going to come to the front door of your home to go out with you.

You can always walk into a pub on a Saturday, and you know meet real people, maybe not people of quality, but real people.