Should I look for someone I'm more sexually compatible with?

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I have often had trouble getting sexually aroused by women because I am normally only sexually aroused by women who are I guess you could say, dominatrix like in bed.

But over the years, it's been really hard to find a woman who wants to be like this and the only two I found throughout the years that were like that, were also toxic and abusive, and not relationship material at all.

So I have come to the term that the problem is me and I need to be more accepting and flexible, rather than be so picky for such a shallow niche.

I'm in a relationship and my gf is not so into either as much. But earlier on she suggested to me that I take cannibis in order to get aroused easier, because she felt like it would help me relax and get aroused without thinking too much. And it has helped, as I can get aroused no problem with her, if I use it.

But I am wondering, is do I have a problem and it's perfectly okay to take a medicinal remedy for it, so to speak, and that's fine... Or am I ignoring the problem by doing this and looking for just a temporary solution? What do you think?

Thank you for any opinions on this! I really appreciate it!

Nothing wrong with using cannanbis to enhance sex if it helps you.

That said is she like totally turned off by taking a more dominant role in the bedroom, or is it something she could indulge with you sometimes? Even if the weed helps more mellow sex work better for you, it probably won't prevent you having the desires you do entirely.

She's definitely says she enjoys doing some of it, but not everything that arouses me. She is willing to meet me about halfway, so should I meet her halfway with the cannabis then and that's totally fair?

I kind of have in the past, but again, it was women who were not relationship material, as they seemed kind of misandristic or if they weren't they were only interested in either casual or polyamorous relationships. I couldn't find one who wanted a relationship that was monogamous.

I had a fiancee that was into me spanking her and all that.

I didn't particularly like this. I'm purely a "vanilla" sort of guy.

I'm lucky almost all my girlfriends since my fiancee weren't into being dominatrixes, or being submissive, or roleplaying.

Did you ever think that the reasons why she, as a 21 year old girl, is into you, as a 37 year old man, are the same reasons she's not into being dominant in bed with you?

Oh well women my own age are just as submissive in my experience do I didn't think age made a difference.