Would you marry you?

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Or even date you?

What have you got to offer another human being in a relationship. I mean you can't be selfish in a relationship, it has to be a two way thing, surely.

I ask myself this and I can honestly say that at this moment in time I would not marry me. I'm too childish, I have empathy issues, I'm slightly on the NPD side as well and although I am aware of this I would not wish to become unwittingly abusive to someone.

I am in a really good LDR and it is great but as for anything more than that I'm just not ready yet.

Would you marry you?

I'm not my type when it comes to attractivity. I feel quite asexual about myself.

I'd prefer to divorce from myself.

There are a myriad of reasons why I wouldn't date or marry someone who was like myself.

I wouldn't date or marry myself, or even be close friends with someone like myself.

I could hang out with someone like myself to engage in common interest hobbies, but that is about it.

I want my partner to be different from me, so that we can help each other grow as human beings, and add new perspectives to one another's views. Pretty much the same for close friends, except to a lesser extent.

At the risk of sounding like a giant narcissist, I woulda loved to have dated & married a female clone of myself when I was single. I am very well aware that I have WAAAY more than my fair share of issues, disabilities, problems, & faults, but I also know that I have a lot of good qualities as well. I also am very painfully aware that very few people are willing to give me half a chance to prove myself to them. My qualities that most others are majorly turned off & bothered by, are things I am not bothered by in others & I'm very attracted to some of those things in others. I know that being similarly disabled as my romantic partner would make it harder for us to live independently & get by in life in various ways but having access to good disability supports & services, having a lot of money, &/or having a family majorly willing & able to support us with things would offset some of my problems with functioning in life & I would not be that bothered by my other problems as long as I had a serious long-term romantic partner I could spend LOTS of time with who loved, respected, & accepted me the way I was. Someone like me is much more likely to do that than someone who is very different from me because I generally am very accepting of people who have various disabilities & so-called problems & when I was single I sought out women who did which is kinda ironic since lots of others tend to think I have low self-esteem when in reality I have low esteem for them because they act like they are so much better than me. My perfect partner is a very imperfect one because I am very imperfect.

all my life i've been searching for somebody just like me or even a lot like me, and come up empty. so YES in a fkkking HEARTBEAT i would!!

Definitely, yes. I have always sought people who were as much like me as possible, in as many ways as possible, to maximize mutual understanding and empathy.

I have always felt like a freak. Early on, I realized that the most important key to a good friendship or romantic relationship was to seek out my fellow freaks -- the more like myself, the better.

To that end I got involved in a variety of oddball subcultures.

I never found anyone exactly like myself. My current partner is certainly not exactly like me, but we do have enough in common to have good companionship, comradeship, and emotional intimacy. So I definitely feel that I was on the right track by looking for commonalities above all else.

I wouldn't because I prefer a partner who is strong where I'm not and vice versa. Thus as a "team" in a relationship we're stronger together. Of course I need to see some part of myself in my partner or we'd be like strangers to each others, but I never wanted to date "me", or a "soul mate" in the sense of someone intuitively able to navigate every nook and cranny of my personality.

Sexually incompatible because my John Thomas is too big.

wish i had that "problem." how could that be a problem?