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26 Jul 2022, 2:20 pm

Is a relationship a democracy or a dictatorship?

& if its a dictatorship then is it a toxic relationship?



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26 Jul 2022, 2:24 pm

A decent relationship is a democracy; a hurtful/abusive one is a dictatorship (unless you’re into BDSM, I suppose).


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26 Jul 2022, 2:24 pm

The ideal relationship is a cooperative anarchy.

Democratic relationships work best when both parties learn to negotiate and compromise.

Dictatorships are toxic, whether in relationships or national rule.



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26 Jul 2022, 2:28 pm

When I met my current wife we decided that she would make all the small decisions and I would make all the big decisions.

8.5 years later and we still have never had a big decision to make.



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26 Jul 2022, 2:38 pm

Neither.

If it were a democracy, you could both vote for different things.

Relationships are about cooperation or compromise, which includes doing things you don't want to do.


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