What Is The Best Way(s) For Aspie People To Find A Partner?

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In your opinion, what are some of the best ways for autistic people to find a romantic partner?

It’s been church for me

Church, both times.

I think having some really good friends among your circle, even if it's small because you never know if you could be compatible with someone.

Church...interesting. I might have to look into that. It's crossed my mind. So it's shaping up to be unanimous. Church it is.

I actually went to college church group for a couple years, specifically for the intention of meeting people and meeting women. First off, I wouldn't recommend joining a church just to meet women ESPECIALLY if you really don't care about the subjects being taught. The only reason I stayed all those years was because the people were nice, and there were sports teams you could join which I thought were fun. I was never really that religious in the first place.

Secondly, church girls can be just as shallow as non-religious girls. In my experience, church girls tend to be less "open minded" in the men they want to date; they have a specific type they want and are less likely to go against the norm. For instance, many of the women I met from church, their boyfriends tended to have two things in common. They were white and they were at least 5 ft 10. I joined several small groups and there were around 6 cute girls who were all less than 5 ft 4. All of their boyfriends were, you guessed it... 6 ft tall and white, even the 4 ft 10 asian girl had a 6 ft 3 white boyfriend.

I definitely tried to meet women from church, ESPECIALLY in the first year but wound up giving up after getting rejected every time. I joined a church band since I am fairly musical inclined that was filled with many cute girls. I was rejected by a couple of them, one just straight up rejected me without telling me why but at least she was nice about it. I know why now; being a 5 ft 2 autistic male, I am excluded by the majority of women. Anyways, most of them went on to get boyfriends with you guessed it... 5 ft 10+ white guys because like I said, most church girls tend to be "traditional" and are less open minded about dating people who may be different from the norm.


Although keep in mind, I was in a college group based in the USA so it may be different other places but that was just my experience.



But if you're religious and you're decent looking, then church might be a good option. It just wasn't for me.

What worked for me, as a 5 ft 2 autistic man, was going the international route, specifically women in asian or hispanic countries. Asian and hispanic women tend to be shorter and smaller compared to white women so my 5 ft 2 115 pound frame is less of a disadvantage in those places. I had zero problems with talking to women online from The Philippines since the average height of a filipina is only 5 ft tall and they typically speak good English.

So for men in my circumstances, maybe that's the route you need to take in order to find love.

Well I'm 6foot and white. I think My problem would be my 'personality' though...There is this annual summer event held by this Church....Outdoors...I'm not looking for love. Just anything that stirs a reaction in me that is not boredom or other such negative states...would be good.

Its' unfortunate to be short, but everybody has some kind of 'flaw.' If you can call it that. As you say that's the norm in Asia. Even people who would qualify has having top tier genetics, have their troubles. Whenever I see somebody rich, good looking , seemingly have it all, male or female, kill themselves, I just shake my head.

You should have added « Joining a space program for colonizing Mars ».

You know; to meet engineer/scientist ladies, or green women if lucky.

To complete this impressive poll.