Worried I'm wasting time doing other things than dating

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I seem to find myself sometimes wondering if I'm wasting my time being a singleton, doing things and going out to places on my own and not so often going on a dating site. I have days, weeks or months when I haven't visited a dating site because I've been been preoccupied with work or doing some hobbies at home, or going out for a few hours into town or something. I have times when I feel like I'm happy and quite content with the way I am but then there times when I'm frustrated after having seen other people my age or younger going out with each other or feel like I haven't done enough to meet the right person. But the thing is what can I do to meet people if I am unwilling to do volunteering again, or going to a club that involves doing something that doesn't interest me or go to a social environment such as a pub or bar ? The thing is also, I can't just walk up to someone that I find attractive in the middle of a busy public high street and ask them if they want to go out with me as that would be just weird and awkward. The last person I met and went out with I met in a charity shop when it was very quiet and there were few people about in the afternoon and she was sitting at the counter and we started talking and then got each other's phone numbers. An encounter like that hasn't happened to me since then.

My answer to this:

It’s certainly better doing things on your own than not doing anything at all.

One shouldn’t “make time” just for the pursuit of a date.

It’s better when you’re doing something on your own, and you happen to meet a potential date.

The main ways adults meet other adults for romantic relationships are bars/clubs, church, dating sites, & work. However more & more workplaces are starting to have policies against romantic relationships due to concerns about legal action for sexual harassment or nepotism & lots of employees don't want to get in relationships with work colleges in case things turn badly so workplace romances are majorly declining. I'd imagine that volunteering would be similar as work. If you are not religious & do not drink or hate the bar atmosphere, online dating sites would be your main option. Dating sites are focused on your picture, your job/income & there is superficial laundry list like what bands, foods, movies, & books you like. Lots of decent guys can strike out on dating sites cuz they are plain & don't stand out in pics & don't have above average income nor exciting jobs & there tends to be a much higher ratio of guys than women on dating sites due to safety concerns. I don't know any other main things us guys could do to meet women & get romantic relationships. A lot more adults are lonely & depressed after Covid started as a result of things being shutdown or switching to online

I 2nd kraftie, if your going out & doing things on your own your probably doing a lot better than some.

I tend to find guys in multiplayer games at times. I've meet them else where too, like a random encounter on the street and having the guts to say your cute or something like that. Or online dating, that said from online dating I met two of my worst ex's. That said I met some nice guys too.

Do things you enjoy and get to know people there, just because someone has a similar interest as you doesn't mean you're compatible in person as it doesn't always work like that. If I was kid free I would so go out and peruse my hobbies more