Then you can start kissing many frogs. To see what you like most. Then assess kissing and your body's reaction, versus reality, what is best for you.
Then realise, that relationships takes work.
Then realise, that both parties need to do work.
Then realise that neurotypical also assume people can read their minds which is untrue for everyone.
Neurotypicals also need to work on themselves.
How to spot a good person with good intentions. If you didn't have a good example at home/from caregiver. A professional like a therapist will help you.
Neurotypical, will use words like "my values" when it is really their expectations, which they really should be communicating.
Then work out what your expectations are, communicate them, decide if they can meet yours. Do you need to adjust your expectations, or increase them? Talk to a professional.
As you also decide if you can meet theirs. If not, try to find a compromise (this is the work, even if it is something new).
Did they cheat, is it something you can work through. If it is a consistent thing? Know your worth, move on. Some things are just not worth working through. No one is perfect, but you have to have, some minimum standards for yourself. If you find yourself creating boundaries within a relationship, why? Do you need to work on yourself? Or is this person really not the right person for you? It is a two way street.
We can be scared, but if we are scared and then put up boundaries, we're not moving forward. You are the only person that can bring down those walls. Some people have no walls. They should respect you and not walk all over you. So, it is a journey, depending on your upbringing, what is going to appear to be the right fit for you. After all you want to feel good about yourself. If you are nervous constantly around the person. Ask yourself why? Are things not adding up? Perhaps ask from a professional like a therapist. They want you to realise your own selfworth and walk away. So there needs to be a balance, where you need to stay, and when you need to walk.
Some people are up for anything, it is up to you to decide how much you want to grow, and in which direction you want to grow.