Advice on kissing

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My teenage son ("NT" - I hate that term - is self confident, captain of the football team, OK academically, .... you get the idea) asked me for advice on french kissing.

I suppose he can't ask any male friends about this and you wouldn't want to admit to any girls you have never kissed before. So who else do you ask? Me

He has only been on "dates" going to movies etc, but now has the hots for an American exchange student who is only here for another couple of weeks.

So my advice was: Start with your ordinary type kiss on the lips. Then gently suck one of her lips and slowly lick her lips.

What follows depends on her response and don't worry you'll get the idea.

So, I'm posting this because others may also want tips BUT ALSO does anyone have any better advice? Remember, it me having to relate back to my son, so keep it nice.

Well, since she lives so far away and is leaving, at least it won't really matter if he gives her a horrible kiss.

I was actually under the impression that a french kiss involves a lot of tongue, while what you describe is "making out" (in Americanese anyhow).

You could reassure him that people who follow their instincts (assuming they have any) are usually good kissers. Or so I hear.

Tell him to make himself aware of how the girl is responding, so he doesn't assert himself to the point where she feels like she's getting devoured. The whole point--for nice boys anyhow--is to get some kind of consensual harmony going on, like dancing. Lead, but don't lead when you're not being followed.

Well, I can't dance, but I imagine it's like dancing.

Has he kissed a girl before? (You mentioned he's been on dates in the past.) If he has, then ask him what felt right during those times, and go with that. If not, refer him to kissing advice sites for teenagers. (Google should help you find those.)

I'd like to know why the french have a monopoly on kising techninque.

Where is the UK snog?

The Singapore Smacker?

The Peruvian Peck?

Yeah. The Eskimo kiss isn't even politically correct anymore.

I suppose frenching your son is out of the question?

I usually just wait for the female to initiate further steps.

Tell your son to truths & myths on kissing.
Although I have not had my first kiss yet, tell him to follow his instincts.
Since this girl is leaving, it may be a bad idea after all.
Just my two cents.

French kissing isn't politically correct anymore either. It should be Freedom kissing.

Don't eat a curry beforehand

Well, I don't have practical tips for initiating, but on the topics of french kissing itself..

oh, and like everything, it's only a guide line, if the girl likes it a bit different, it's no use to rigidly do these things, but they kinda work as a 'default'. Well, at least it works for me. I've been told I'm a good kisser, so..

1) Don't open your mouth all the way. It's no fun to get a mouth full of spit, or drool all on each others faces. Try to 'match' the lips so to speak.

2) Close your eyes, it's rude to stare

3) Kissing is like talking, you each take your 'turn', when it's your turn, apply some gentle force, when it's her turn, you withdraw a little bit. However, some girls aren't good at taking charge, so if that is the case, no big deal.

4) Going on with gentleness, don't pucker your tongue like a rod and 'tongue rape' her, that's no fun. Start out gently, exploring each other's mouth, lett the passion build rather than going into frenzy at the first moment.

5) Things NOT to do: running circles with your tongue in her mouth, also know as the 'dishwasher', or chewing air, aka 'the goldfish'. Most girls find this a turn-off.

6) Don't neglet your hands! Hug her, caress her, good places are: the back and sides of her head, upper and lower back, holding her hands.
Don't go to the 'naughty' places, or at least, don't go there imediatly.

Well, that's what I came up with on the top of my hat, there's more but I'm not going to type this up for hours :p

And, again, these ar just guidlines. The most important part is to be aware of the girl, don't do your routine but change accordingly how she reacts. If she holds you very tightly, kisses very passionty, you're doing great!

Well, good luck to your son, and may the force be with him

Kissing is such a personal thing! I'm French and Italian, and I love long kissing sessions! But what I like to do might gross some people out (like Mormons for example). I really like to go deep tongue diving and use a lot of saliva, and gently munch on lips with mine and go back to my tongue exploring the mouth. I also do a thing with my tongue in the ear that's too hard to explain...
I think, however, that it might be a little advanced for your son. If they're both very young, they're likely to be both inexperienced and hence nervous about it, so no worries. Just be gentle, nice and easy... Oh, and make sure your teeth are super clean and that you smell good.
I'm serious.

5) Things NOT to do: running circles with your tongue in her mouth, also know as the 'dishwasher', or chewing air, aka 'the goldfish'. Most girls find this a turn-off.

Disagree. When things REALLY heat up after "foreplay" kissing, my experience in 100% of the cases has been that it is indeed a turn on. And so is tongue darting. Of course, we're not talking about the first minutes here, you've got to build thing up....
And I agree, in this instance, if you're dealing with a very young and inexperienced girl, she will most likely find it scary and gross.

"Brush your teeth, brush your teeth, brush your goddamn teeth!"

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i could never get myself to kiss anyone again. sticking your tounge in someone elses mouth is pretty nasty, the sensation is goddamn electric though. totally shocking, and to much stimulation