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16 Jan 2023, 4:44 pm

Women want equality.

I think when a woman misbehaves she should sleep on the couch.

Agreed?



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16 Jan 2023, 9:35 pm

I don’t believe chivalry will ever be dead.

Nobody should have to sleep on the couch.



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16 Jan 2023, 9:50 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Nobody should have to sleep on the couch.

Guest bed is cheating. :wink: :lol:



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16 Jan 2023, 10:18 pm

Gosh...I wonder how long this thread will be alive?



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16 Jan 2023, 10:37 pm

This isn't even good trolling



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16 Jan 2023, 11:36 pm

hurtloam wrote:
This isn't even good trolling


I'm not even sure what the OP is trying to say?



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17 Jan 2023, 12:02 am

I own my house and I’m sleeping on the couch.

Chivalry is good, but women can be chivalrous too.


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17 Jan 2023, 12:04 am

Correct me if I’m wrong OP...

He believes we can dispose of the cultural expectation that a man should be chivalrous.

I’m not sure why that means anyone should be sleeping on a sofa. Grow up and settle your disputes in a mature manner. If that is not possible, or one person feels too angry or fearful than sofa sleeping is unlikely to solve the issues.

I am no longer living with my spouse and it’s a huge improvement for my mental, physical, and emotional health.
If there was ever a situation where a sacrifice had to be made I was always the one who had to move where I slept if I wanted any peace. So I did - far away - forever.

We are perfectly amicable and mutually supportive but completely separate. It’s much more balanced now. I feel zero obligation.



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17 Jan 2023, 12:06 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
I own my house and I’m sleeping on the couch.

Chivalry is good, but women can be chivalrous too.


Hope you are getting good enough sleep! :(



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17 Jan 2023, 12:16 am

Women have nothing to fear from me... I don't own a couch! :lol: :lmao:



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17 Jan 2023, 12:26 am

beady wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
I own my house and I’m sleeping on the couch.

Chivalry is good, but women can be chivalrous too.


Hope you are getting good enough sleep! :(


Thanks.
It’s been rough with a broken rib.
I can’t tolerate mattresses at all yet.
I get maybe 2.5 hours of sleep / day.


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17 Jan 2023, 12:31 am

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It’s been rough with a broken rib.

Aww. We'll try not to make you laugh too much. :wink: Get well soon!



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17 Jan 2023, 12:47 am

Laughter and coughing etc are getting easier with time and narcotics 8)

Sleep’s still a whole other story.


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17 Jan 2023, 12:54 am

beady wrote:
Correct me if I’m wrong OP...

He believes we can dispose of the cultural expectation that a man should be chivalrous.

I’m not sure why that means anyone should be sleeping on a sofa. Grow up and settle your disputes in a mature manner. If that is not possible, or one person feels too angry or fearful than sofa sleeping is unlikely to solve the issues.

I am no longer living with my spouse and it’s a huge improvement for my mental, physical, and emotional health.
If there was ever a situation where a sacrifice had to be made I was always the one who had to move where I slept if I wanted any peace. So I did - far away - forever.

We are perfectly amicable and mutually supportive but completely separate. It’s much more balanced now. I feel zero obligation.


Great post and good for you.

When I cohabitated I don’t recall anyone ever going to the couch but I often chose to sleep in the guest room or one of the kids’ rooms (if they weren’t home). That might have been from arguments sometimes, but most of the time it was for sensory survival.


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17 Jan 2023, 1:01 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Chivalry is good, but women can be chivalrous too.


Yes women can do anything a man can do. But I don't think that's the point the OP is making.



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17 Jan 2023, 1:10 am

cyberdad wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
Chivalry is good, but women can be chivalrous too.


Yes women can do anything a man can do. But I don't think that's the point the OP is making.


I’m not sure what chivalry has to do with sleeping arrangements. Chivalry means following a religious or moral code. Maybe he’s assuming that men always own the homes (?) and that it’s moral for them to punish women by making them uncomfortable. Frankly, if my partner had that code of ethics I’d be happy to sleep on the couch while looking for a divorce attorney and kicking him out my door.


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