Do you ever wish you had some other affliction?

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I'm going to start by saying I'm aware there are many afflictions worse than ASD (for example: blind, deaf, paraplegic, quadriplegic, amputee, cerebral palsy, autoimmune diseases, etc).

I'd much rather have ASD than any of the conditions I just mentioned.

That being said, sometimes I'm pissed off that I had to be born with ASD, rather than, say, simply being bad at math.

Being bad at math has no impact on your dating life/sex life. On the other hand, being on the spectrum makes your odds of success when it comes to dating/sex plummet.

For that matter, being bad at math is less likely to hold you back professionally than being on the spectrum too.

Dyscalculia is a type of neurodivergence.

Being bad at maths does have an impact on our employment.
Most gainful careers require it in Uni or on the job.

Also, is everything about sex to you?

I'm bad at maths. I mean, really bad at it. Unfortunately in the UK, dyscalculia is not very well known and often underdiagnosed.

I was unable to receive a diagnosis and not through a lack of effort. Often times I was dismissed as 'not the learning disability type', which meant that I was simply not disruptive. My issues were chalked up to laziness, even when I was writing questions backwards.

It wasn't easy going through the schooling system. My spelling was average so the rest of my issues were dismissed and I was simply told that I was anxious but otherwise neurotypical. Which didn't line up with what I was experiencing.

I failed my maths exam three times. I broke down crying the second time around. However, despite this I was able to get into University. The system at the time was more lenient and I was able to get in through doing a foundation year first. Unfortunately, I believe that they have since changed the system and I probably wouldn't get in if I were applying now.

The vast majority of people assume that I have a passing grade in my maths GCSE but I do not. Most jobs don't ask about GCSEs unless you are applying for an apprenticeship. Then in which case they'll ask for your school records. Otherwise you can get into jobs with little maths involved. Although getting into any job is difficult because the job market is a nightmare.

My daughter has it too. ^ Same school experiences but she was dx with ASD after graduation.

She had to quit Chef School in part because she couldn't pass the maths (business math, fractions in recipes, weight conversions for ingredients, food chemistry). She had a tutor and tried so hard. I'm really good at math and helped her all her life but she still has trouble with basics like arithmetic. She can't even read analogue clocks.

Well, it turns out that my issue is that I'm transgender, and seem to have many female characteristics.
Intersex maybe a more understandable term but I've not been tested for that.
I'd constantly "male fail" no matter how hard I tried. I'd fall into the uncanny valley between male and female and make folks nervous or struggle on their end as their gender caculators ground to a halt.

So, I present female and have no difficulty socializing!
I'm 5" 2" 105lbs with an hourglass figure. No HRT as I don't need it.
If I let my hair down it falls to about the middle of my back.

I have ASD AND I'm bad at math. I can tell you now, having dyscalculia is no picnic. When I was young I was afraid I could never live like other adults because of things like balancing checkbooks or having to buy groceries and other necessities. And every job that exists requires some knowledge of math.

When I was in grade three, I would cry almost every day because the math would just cause my brain to shut down. It was humiliating. Sometimes I was afraid to come home after school because my eyes would still be red from crying and I'd get chewed out by my mom. It was the 80s, parents were allowed to chew their kids out for crying.

I have lots of various issues besides autism. Some are related comorbids & others are seperate issues. I was diagnosed with dyslexia & ADHD when in kindergarten & my parents were told that being bad at math & other school subjects was part of it. I struggled in so many school subjects that I never had any desire to go to college & I never regreted not going. The only math class I did well in was Business Math which didn't count as a math credit. A lot of the problems were word problems & didn't require memorizing formulas. There was usually more than one way to get the correct answer & I sometimes used the longer more complicated approach but that didn't matter since my answer was right. I found the class to be a lot more practical for everyday life than say Algebra 1 which I only passed because my grade was curved. I find using a graphing calculator to be very helpfull for life math in addition to business math because I can see multiple problems or parts of problems displayed at once instead of having to remember various parts or writing things down. That's also handy for comparing stats in RPG games

It's very difficult for me to know how much autism exactly affects & limits my life since I have various other issues mixed in. When it comes to relationships I think I woulda been able to compensate for having autism if I wasn't disabled in other ways like if I was a poor-man Bill Gates with a decent career in the STEM field. On the flipside I also think I coulda compensated for my other issues if I didn't have autism on top like if I was a charming NT who made great first social impressions. I don't talk about autism offline much except with my girlfriend because others won't understand or relate & I have other disabilities that are more recognizable & understood.