When do you have to be most experienced

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I don't know but one of the reasons I'm asking this question is because it's been kicked off by seeing something scrolling on my phone about singer dua lipa who is 27 is seeing someone who is 41 and I thought "Oh here we go another story about two people with a large age gap between them and people will be commenting saying "He's too old for her and she is too young for him." I'm getting quite sick of hearing about these stories and surely does it matter in the 21st century?

I don't know why but I feel bad because I still haven't yet had the most experiences with relationships in my early 30s and it's leaving me like I'm "wasting time not experiencing it" and that I "should" have had experience with sex and relationships by now when I was in my late teens or early 20s. I had friendships with a couple of girls but not a relationship.

Yes I hear a lot of stories about large age gap relationships. It does get a little boring, but at the same time it's good that they're making people more aware. But some people will always have their opinions against it, which is fine by me. I'm in a large age gap relationship myself (some 30 years between us), and luckily our families approve but there are some people who think it's strange. I suppose they would.

Different things matter to different people. There's nothing wrong with that.

The difference between 27 and 41 isn't too bad. It's a bit creepy IMO when a person is so much older they could have kids or, even, grandkids who are the same age as their partner, but we all are into different things.

OP,

Are you just venting or is there a question you'd like people to answer?

If the question is whether these stories about singers' dating lives should matter to us in the 21st Century, my answer would be no. I've never heard of that singer and couldn't really care less who she's dating as long as it's safe and she isn't being exploited for any money that I'll presume she has.

If the question is whether age matters in dating, I think we've already answered that question multiple times in a lot of other threads. It's a question that none of us can answer for you because we all have different points of view. It all boils down to personal choice for you, if you're ever in a position to consider dating someone a fair bit older or younger than yourself and assuming of course they'd be of legal age. Likewise if you decide to date men, or any other demographic which might not be seen as traditional in your family. These are decisions that you need to make on your own without worrying what's acceptable to other people, or more specifically people here on Wrong Planet.

I feel bad about having been less interested in a LTR with someone I once dated (who had been the one who initially pursued the relationship) because she was not only a couple years older than I but had serious health challenges. I might have been more willing to deal with her health issues had I been older. I feel bad particularly because she and I got along very well.

I can blame some of this on my parents. My mother was 8.5 years older than my father and I didn't get a good impression of a relationship with that sort of age difference from observing them.