It’s crazy

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It’s crazy to me. Crazy how no woman ever has had any romantic interest in me. Not even a tiny bit. Not even enough to go on a date with me. The hints that some of you have received, I never got. The matches you got on dating apps, I never got. The initiative that some of you received from the woman to date them, I never got. Does anyone realize how insane that sounds? I live with it everyday. On somedays, I’m ok accepting it but other days like today, it sucks so much.

What makes it crazy? Do you have any desirable traits, or conversely, do you have any traits that might consistently drive others away?

I would like to think so but I guess all of my traits make me undateable. It’s just crazy to me. Especially with the cope of “there’s somebody out there for everybody”. There isn’t and some people are meant to be single. Like me.

Edit: Like have you lived your life in which no one was ever attracted to you in a romantic sense? I’m 30 and it’s never happened. Those feelings and emotions are very hard to accept.

I guarantee there are women on the online dating apps that feel the exact same way. Some women have given up altogether on dating. I do not think that this happens just to males or just to you. It is a universal human condition that happens to a lot of people. Especially at my age I encounter a lot of people that have simply given up or no longer think about such matters or consider them important in any way. Some are married, and many marriages are just arrangements where people cohabit and may or may not even be friends anymore.

I 100% resonate with this. I had zero luck in my teens and twenties. The guys I tried to ask out turned me down. I was never asked out, and only approached by intoxicated people. So I assumed there was something very wrong with me and had totally given up by your age. Then at 32 I had a friend ask me out of the blue "what if we tried dating" and I realized that maybe I could be desirable. It didn't work out, exactly, but it was a spark of hope I never expected.

You never know what the future holds. I hope that things will work out for you.

You’re right. I don’t know what my future holds regarding this. However, self reflections has made me realize that it’ll truly never happen. The solutions to fix my issues are things that are nonexistent.

Are you sure? It could be that you are sending off signals that you are not interested or available so no one tries to approach you. Have you tried approaching anyone to let them know, politely and gently, that you are interested?

I’m sure. My self reflection with my attitude and personality have made me realize it’s never going to happen. No I’ve never approached anyone for two reasons. I never saw any hints to give me any reason to try and I have fears that basically control me in this aspect. Fear of rejections, creepiness, embarrassment, etc. All of it basically controls me.