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15 Aug 2023, 2:57 am
15 Aug 2023, 3:48 am
IsabellaLinton wrote:
Become friends with a lot of men from different backgrounds and with different personalities.
See which type of personality or interests suit yours best.
Look for someone with that profile.
Date a few people until you find someone you feel safe and "yourself" with.
Ensure you both want the same thing (Looking for a lifelong commitment.)
See how they react to your personal problems (Do the "Are you a narcissist?" test)
Make sure you know all about each other's bad side as well as the good.
Date them long enough that you see them in a variety of settings and contexts.
Spend time with them around your family, to get feedback.
For the most part, trust that feedback.
Listen to your gut.
Keep a diary of what's happening in your relationship, good and bad.
Reflect on it a lot.
See that you have the same spending habits, and you can communicate / resolve conflict well.
See that you have the same sex drive and sexual interests.
See your doctor before having sex, so you know it will be safe.
Talk about things like whether you will want children, or how you'll raise your kids.
Hope for the best.
As for general info on how to meet the person, look for the best possible scenario first.
If you don't want a drinker, don't go to a pub.
If you don't want an artist, don't go to art shows.
Maybe watch videos or take classes about improv acting and how to talk to strangers.
See which type of personality or interests suit yours best.
Look for someone with that profile.
Date a few people until you find someone you feel safe and "yourself" with.
Ensure you both want the same thing (Looking for a lifelong commitment.)
See how they react to your personal problems (Do the "Are you a narcissist?" test)
Make sure you know all about each other's bad side as well as the good.
Date them long enough that you see them in a variety of settings and contexts.
Spend time with them around your family, to get feedback.
For the most part, trust that feedback.
Listen to your gut.
Keep a diary of what's happening in your relationship, good and bad.
Reflect on it a lot.
See that you have the same spending habits, and you can communicate / resolve conflict well.
See that you have the same sex drive and sexual interests.
See your doctor before having sex, so you know it will be safe.
Talk about things like whether you will want children, or how you'll raise your kids.
Hope for the best.
As for general info on how to meet the person, look for the best possible scenario first.
If you don't want a drinker, don't go to a pub.
If you don't want an artist, don't go to art shows.
Maybe watch videos or take classes about improv acting and how to talk to strangers.
Would you be so kind and condense this for me please?
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15 Aug 2023, 7:59 am
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15 Aug 2023, 11:26 am
Temeraire wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
Become friends with a lot of men from different backgrounds and with different personalities.
See which type of personality or interests suit yours best.
Look for someone with that profile.
Date a few people until you find someone you feel safe and "yourself" with.
Ensure you both want the same thing (Looking for a lifelong commitment.)
See how they react to your personal problems (Do the "Are you a narcissist?" test)
Make sure you know all about each other's bad side as well as the good.
Date them long enough that you see them in a variety of settings and contexts.
Spend time with them around your family, to get feedback.
For the most part, trust that feedback.
Listen to your gut.
Keep a diary of what's happening in your relationship, good and bad.
Reflect on it a lot.
See that you have the same spending habits, and you can communicate / resolve conflict well.
See that you have the same sex drive and sexual interests.
See your doctor before having sex, so you know it will be safe.
Talk about things like whether you will want children, or how you'll raise your kids.
Hope for the best.
As for general info on how to meet the person, look for the best possible scenario first.
If you don't want a drinker, don't go to a pub.
If you don't want an artist, don't go to art shows.
Maybe watch videos or take classes about improv acting and how to talk to strangers.
See which type of personality or interests suit yours best.
Look for someone with that profile.
Date a few people until you find someone you feel safe and "yourself" with.
Ensure you both want the same thing (Looking for a lifelong commitment.)
See how they react to your personal problems (Do the "Are you a narcissist?" test)
Make sure you know all about each other's bad side as well as the good.
Date them long enough that you see them in a variety of settings and contexts.
Spend time with them around your family, to get feedback.
For the most part, trust that feedback.
Listen to your gut.
Keep a diary of what's happening in your relationship, good and bad.
Reflect on it a lot.
See that you have the same spending habits, and you can communicate / resolve conflict well.
See that you have the same sex drive and sexual interests.
See your doctor before having sex, so you know it will be safe.
Talk about things like whether you will want children, or how you'll raise your kids.
Hope for the best.
As for general info on how to meet the person, look for the best possible scenario first.
If you don't want a drinker, don't go to a pub.
If you don't want an artist, don't go to art shows.
Maybe watch videos or take classes about improv acting and how to talk to strangers.
Would you be so kind and condense this for me please?
I'll put it on a fridge magnet, love.
15 Aug 2023, 11:28 am
Temeraire wrote:
First you need to find a kind and honest person who adores you.
Then nature will take its course - with mutual respect.
Then nature will take its course - with mutual respect.
I told my kids to look for "big brains, big heart", and the rest would fall into place.
The brains don't actually matter in terms of academics, but in terms of making good decisions.
15 Aug 2023, 11:29 am
15 Aug 2023, 11:38 am
Fnord wrote:
Although I would suggest that the OP makes sure that she is attractive to the kind of man she wants to marry, after she decides what kind of man he should be.
Yes.
I wrote the list in about one minute flat.
I could have added more but didn't want to drone.
Of course all those things might not happen.
I just really like to brainstorm.
If you don't feel a rush when they step in the room, the attraction likely won't last.
I still get butterflies from my dude EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.
Even if I'm upset or we're having a bad day, I remember why I'm drawn to him.
Fnord wrote:
Just remember, as Rita Rudner once said, "When I meet a guy, the first question I ask myself is: 'Is this the man I want my children to spend every-other weekend with?'"
or the person you want your kids to inherit half of their gene pool from?
do you want their parents to be your kids' grandparents?
do you want them to be your grandchildren's grandparent?
family trees last forever
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