My girlfriend of 5 months broke up with me out of the blue.

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So, I'd been dating this girl online for 5 months, when out of the blue one day, she told me she actually never really loved me, and that she was actually interested in another guy, who was my friend, as we had all met on the same site. She said that she was gonna be moving in with him soon as well. She told me the reason she even "dated" me was because she felt sorry for me because my Mom died last year (December of 2022). Which makes no sense anyways, she knew it wouldn't even last anyways and that she'd have to break my heart sometime or another. I honestly have a hard time telling if it was for good intentions or if it was an act of evil. So that puts an end to my 2nd relationship.

For those curious, my first one was when I was making out with some Mexican girl behind my town's library. We only ever kissed though. We weren't even officially a thing.

Either way, I can't say I'll be dating online ever again.

That's rough, I'm sorry to hear that. I doubt it was intentionally so, but it was a cruel thing to do nonetheless.

This is something you have to take into consideration as well.

When you start an online relationship with someone, eventually one of you will have to move to be with the other person. The question is whether or not you will like living in their city or are even capable of living in their city. Let's say you live in Chicago and your girlfriend lives in a small town in Texas and you move there to be with her. You may not like the blazing heat in the summer or the fact that small towns don't have a lot of activities going on compared to the bigger cities.

On the other hand, if neither if you even want to move, then the relationship is over before it even began.


And I'm going to be 100% completely honest with you. At 17 years old, you're not ready to move far away from your family. You have little to no experience living on your own. You'd have to get a full time job, get your own apartment, buy your own food, buy a car and don't forget to get the oil changed. And your family won't be there to hold your hand if you're struggling and can't take care of yourself. So unless your online girlfriend lives less than an hour away, you're simply too young to move and your girlfriend probably is too.


If you want to start an online relationship with someone, wait until you're at least 23. By the time, you'll likely be a bit more mature.

Oh that's cruel of her, what a thing to do.

But people in their teens generally don't know what they are doing re: relationships so they do all sorts of cruel things. I bet when she's older she'll look back and go 'oops, that poor guy, it was horrible of me to treat him like that.'

If I were you I'd look at relationships at your young age as just practice for the real thing later on. Work out what you like in a partner and what you don't like, what you can tolerate and what you can't. Then you'll be all set up for when someone you really love and who loves you back, appears in your life.