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FrostBender
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21 Jul 2024, 12:30 pm

She's black and has frizzy hair. I like how it feels. I usually play with her hair before we go to sleep.
She hasn't said anything about it, but I'm worried she's going to think I'm fetishizing her.



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21 Jul 2024, 3:41 pm

Ask her if she likes having her hair played with.

It's definitely a reasonable concern for her to have, but that doesn't mean that she'll assume a racial fetish is the only reason why someone might like playing with her hair.


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24 Jul 2024, 11:54 pm

Ask her and see.


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25 Jul 2024, 10:16 am

My girlfriend really likes me doing that :mrgreen: We're both white so we never thought there could be a fetish aspect to it. Like others have said it's best to ask since if she tries indirect hinting she doesn't like it you may not notice(I def may not)


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