Sweet and Innocent syndrome?

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Mostly for straight guys. So have you ever known a young woman who seemed sweet and innocent, prim and proper, or shy and mousy, a "nice girl" about whom you later learned was really a freak in her private life, willingly lost her virginity in her early teens, or has a high body count?

How I experienced this when still a virgin, was girls I tried to court, who I thought were attracted to me, but I didn't get anywhere with physically, and I thought it was because they were nice girls, but eventually learned they just weren't into me that way although they had gotten it on with other guys, usually at a young age.

A woman can be nice, sweet, innocent, etc. and still have an adventurous sex life, just like men can. It’s not a gendered thing although there are obviously still double standards when it comes to this stuff.

this is kind of weird

I just feel like there’s too much judgment directed at women as far as sex goes, especially when folks talk about girls willingly engaging in sex in their early teens. Sometimes that can be related to experiencing CSA. Obviously, that’s not always the case, but either way, it still reads a bit…creepy.

Apart from that, I think we need to move away from judging people about this stuff and from the angel/whore dichotomy in particular.

Women who like sex or engage in it willingly are freaks?
Now I've heard everything.
Forget angel/whore.
I guess it's frigid/freak.

Also I'd appreciate if people didn't use the term "body count" for anything but mass murder.

*Correction: I don't even think it's appropriate for mass murder.

Let's have some sensitivity, please.

I treat sex as something I should ONLY do within a committed relationship with the right man!! !

This is part of why I abstained until I met David

I have never bounced around with different men and had one-night stands with them because that is morally wrong

For those who insist on finding red flags in the original post: I used the term freak simply to mean having a high libido and uninhibited in intimacy. I did not mean promiscuous behavior of any sort, in fact what experience I've had with women who could be accused of promiscuity is that they aren't necessarily unusually horny or exciting sex partners, but they have multiple partners to satisfy some other psychological need plus they may simply not be fussed about having more than one partner simultaneously.

The issue I raised was twofold. One was that inexperienced young men may assume, from outward appearances, that young women who seem reticent, mousy, or conservative are probably squeamish about sex, and how in reality they can be just the opposite given the right circumstances; and that their failure to "get anywhere" with such a woman results from their own inability to inspire that woman's sexual attraction, rather than because the woman is actually a prude or whatever other misogynistic term I can get slammed for using.