Babygirltoday wrote:
Gentleman Argentum wrote:
uncommondenominator wrote:
^ this^
It's a similar manipulation tactic as telling a little kid that they most definitely could not ever eat all the broccoli on their plate, so the kid goes "yes I can!" and does so to prove you wrong.
They're trying to undermine your confidence, and make you seek their validation for having done so. In the same spirit as above, they say "you're not that pretty and wouldn't make a very good girlfriend anyways" (or similar) in the hopes that you go "I am very pretty and I would make a great girlfriend, and I'll prove it to you!", so that you try to win their approval, wherein previously they were trying (and failed) to win your approval.
Yes, pick-up artist stuff, manipulation. It is the strategy of some of the chasers. They are not concerned about honesty or fairness.
That’s gross. I wish they would leave me alone. They always chase me down and usually they already have a gf or wife.
It is indeed quite gross. And those men see nothing wrong with what they're doing, too, which is extra gross. The fact that they already have partners just makes it triple gross.
BTDT wrote:
Maybe you should say you already have a boyfriend? Or girlfriend?
Wouldn't work. These creeps don't respect boundaries. Telling them you already have a boyfriend won't make them suddenly respect boundaries they didn't before. I've watched it happen in real-time. They've got pick-up lines for just such occasions. (I've got a boyfriend!) "What's that got to do with me?" / "I don't care if you don't care" / "Ok, so where is he?" - and they'll just keep trying.
And telling them you have a girlfriend just makes the creep think "threesome!" or some crap. "Call her up too, we'll make it a party!" or other such creep moves. They've got lines for that too - "maybe you just haven't met the right man yet".