What's your relationship style?

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bee33
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03 Oct 2024, 8:22 pm

Whether you're in a relationship or not, what is your ideal relationship style? Would you want to spend all of your time with your partner or have some or a lot of time to yourself? Live with them or live apart? See them on "dates" once or twice a week? See them every day?



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03 Oct 2024, 9:53 pm

Having been squashed and creased into this relationship it's hard to conceive of something different.
It'd be nice to again be capable of independence and doing everything for myself. Then living apart would allow some mystery and privacy, but I'm mostly content with what I have...24/7 saturation for a few weeks followed by long lonely stretches



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04 Oct 2024, 4:04 am

I love spending time with my partner, but I also need to have plenty of time alone. I'm very fortunate that she's the same way. This was a topic of conversation when we discussed moving in together in a year or two; we both need a big enough place to have time and space to ourselves


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04 Oct 2024, 1:48 pm

For me, my past relationship style with the two partners I've had (14 years and 15 years respectively) was to be glued at the hip. I love to be with them always and to have our little inside jokes and to fawn over them all the time. With my current partner, whom I have been with for less than a year, we only see each other once or twice a week, though when we do see each other we spend all day together and sometimes into the nest day. I would like to see him more, but he is more independent and my chronic illness also makes it difficult, as I am sometimes out of commission. I'm thinking/hoping that things will evolve. I really like him and could be with him always.



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Today, 2:34 am

I definitely need quite a bit of time to myself, but I also enjoy seeing my partner daily. Living together works for me, as long as we have enough space. It's important that the living space isn't too small, so we can each have our own areas to retreat to when we need some time alone. Having that balance between togetherness and personal space is key for me.



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Today, 4:03 am

I like being alone for the most part, punctuated by visits. I was in a twenty-three year marriage before. What happens is that people can become strangers, even living with each other. I think people get tired of each other. That is my belief. I do not think that human relationships are very often capable of being long-term or stable in any way.

How to avoid that? Best is bee33's style with her boyfriend, just see each other once a week, that seems ideal to me.

The main thing in the way of that is practicality. Living together is a lot cheaper and it also allows you to care for each other in sickness and protect each other.

I didn't get sick a whole lot in my marriage though and did not need protection. As for finances, I lost a lot by having someone live with me that was not careful with money and did not earn much money. The two go hand-in-hand.


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