He wants me to move in but I can't

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Crystal1414
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Yesterday, 10:29 am

I can't just move into a guys house after only meeting him 3 times even if it will be free. He really wants me to though. I don't know if this is bad. I'm bad at dating.



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Yesterday, 11:17 am

I would never move into someone's house after only meeting them three times. I think your instincts are right.



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Yesterday, 2:59 pm

Crystal1414 wrote:
I can't just move into a guys house after only meeting him 3 times even if it will be free. He really wants me to though. I don't know if this is bad. I'm bad at dating.

If you have any doubts, DON'T!!

It is your intuition telling you that something ain't kosher.

Trust your intuition.



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Yesterday, 3:07 pm

Crystal1414 wrote:
I can't just move into a guys house after only meeting him 3 times even if it will be free. He really wants me to though. I don't know if this is bad. I'm bad at dating.


That's nuts and really suggests either his judgment is terrible or his motives are questionable. Either way, he's probably not a good candidate.


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Yesterday, 3:31 pm

It does sound premature, hence possibly dangerous, but either way remember rule #1
"People are weird"
It is possibly legitimate...
Is there a slow motion test you could do? Do you have friends or family for backup?



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Yesterday, 3:57 pm

Not to be discriminatory or anything, but considering your post history of discussing some of the serious mental health issues that you experience, I can only surmise that your boyfriend will be of a similar level of functioning, in which case I can't see anything good out of two people living together who cannot support themselves with basic independence?

You will likely more secure with your own family, even if living with family does have its drawbacks.

The grass is not always greener on the other side.



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Today, 7:00 am

This doesn't sound promising, but perhaps if you provided more detail, it could be seen that there's some aspect to this situation that makes it worth considering. Although you said you can't do it anyway, so why think about it?


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Today, 7:17 am

I wont move into someone's house after months and months of meeting. I've never moved into anyone's house actually. Moving in after three meets is extremely quick