Am I developing permanent beer goggles

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I have developed beer goggles. I have started finding larger ladies chubby bellies attractive, while I never did before. I know I that I am always looking for scientific explanations but I cannot except that it is down to nature lowering my standards.

maybe your paternal instinct is turning on?

like you find big bellies attractive cause you want to make "your" gal's belly big (with a baby)?

There is a scientific explanation: cognitive dissonance. Read about the induced compliance studies. The human brain cannot easily cope with doing something contrary to what it wants/believes, so it will often (as a coping mechanism) change what it wants, based on what it is actually receiving/experiencing. That's greatly over-simplified, but partially explains the concept.

that would imply there are only "bigger" chicks in his area, so he's changing his tastes.... yeah?

Or that he thinks, logically, that he will be more successful with larger women, so his emotional leanings are following suit.

It's simply easier to lower your standards than raise them. Now that you've come to accept chubbier women, it seems pointless to go after the more attractive girl anymore if it means greater difficulty and competition. Your sub-conscious follows suit.

I think this is the reason. It's not so much consciously lowering one's standards (although it may seem that way), but subconsciously changing one's preferences. When a man is having no success with attractive women for years on end, he tries "lowers his standards". The instinct to procreate is stronger than the instinct to seek out best-looking women. In the end, the man starts looking for any willing sex partner, regardless of attractiveness. On a personal note, I "lowered my standards" too. Instead of going for the best-looking girls I can find, I seek out girls that are overweight and/or unattractive. This resulted in increasing my success rate from 1% to 50%. Also, I'm noticing more and more average and even somewhat good-looking guys dating girls that typically wouldn't be considered attractive. (Hey, maybe NTs are catching on to this tactic too.)

However, I logically know that my preferences for unattractive women have not completely taken over my decisions. When looking for dates or relationships, I seek out girls that are somewhat unattractive and/or overweight, so that I'll have a good chance. However, when I'm picking out an escort, everything changes! In those situations, I look for the hottest girl I can find, and even limit my search based on my favorite hair color, ethnicity, height, etc. How does this reconcile with the lowering of standards in "free" dating situations? I'm still trying to find out for myself.

I haven't changed my standards, and I find slightly larger women attractive.

In my case it may be that I like women who are similar to me in appearance... maybe.

Also, glasses and slightly misshapen teeth...I'm kind of partial to... and these are imperfections. (not extreme but not exactly perfect).

In terms of a explanation... it maybe that society is pulling you to like a certain beauty... but internally you like something else. It's certainly difficult to like something that is against the perceived norm...

Last edited by Pugly on 18 Sep 2007, 4:46 pm, edited 1 time in total.

No, you are just lowering your standards and being less shallow.

Unfortunately for me, I wouldn't date a girl who weighs more than me and I only weigh like 140 pounds....

Maybe its not the bellies at all but the attractive Women in Croydon are so rare and they know it so they are stuck up b*****s who think they are Gods gift, where-as those less than perfect still retain an air of Femininity?

In most cases chubbier woman are often are at the far other end of the spectrum. They are often too Chav or too jolly sociable. But in a few cases they are not, there is one at my work place who seem kind of cute, but she works in the same office as an aspie woman who I really like.

THIS is what I need to train myself to do.
But with everything, and infallibly.

For some maybe. Mine just keep going up.

Well, I like girls with a little bit of meat but I always have so I can't say for sure.

Well, I've always had this. (not referring to chubby girls but to finding someone attractive while most people wouldn't)
Sometimes, when i think a girl is really cute or pretty, others blatantly think she's ugly.

And it's not because I "lowered my standards" since I've never had any.