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After a less than pleasant breakup that ended my relationship of 4 years, I've now started a relationship with a guy (we're both 18) who I've known over the internet for 2 years and started to fall for, without telling anyone, before I ever broke up with my ex.

He's a sweetie, knows a lot about AS (he was misdiagnosed with it as a small child, he's really PDD-NOS), understands me and has never hurt me. I care about him and he cares about me. Trouble is, he lives in Louisiana and I'm in Ontario. We think we can get past that, but my other concern is: Could he be a rebound guy?

I'm his first gf and I don't want to hurt him. What exactly constittutes "rebounding"? I care about him, but I don't want to risk getting to deep in this if I'm likely rebounding. I don't want to cause him pain. People have told me he's likely the rebound guy, but I've cared about him so long I don't understand how that could be right.

Anyone got a comment?

I have a guy friend who had an awful break up with his gf. Two weeks later he fell, hard, for a girl in one of his classes.

We all told him it was a rebound thing and to be careful.

Luckily, he didn't listen. Less than a year later he married her, against the wishes of both sets of parents.

Their 5 year anniversary is next week.

So, even if it is a rebound, it might work out.

BeeBee

What is the rebound and how does it work? Being as romantically impaired as I am, I have heard of it, but I don't understand it.

Care to enlighten me, please?

I'll let others explain. I'm just here to say CONGRATS.

Does he have a mustache?

Rebound is basically what you get when you have been in a close relationship with someone for an extended period of time, and then break up. The loss of having someone to be intimate with can hit pretty hard, and it's not uncommon for such people to quickly find themselves in another relationship that consists mainly of physical closeness rather than because there is some deep-seated love. Such relationships are usually short lived, as the person hasn't yet 'got over' the person they initially broke up with, and since the basis of the rebound relationship was predominantly the need to have someone to hold and be held by.

I can't see how internet-only relationships (as in boyfriend-girlfriend) can possibly work. This doesn't fulfill the need for physical contact. Even us Aspergians need some king of contact, in my opinion. At least, I do. Although I don't ever get it. Lately I have been trying to embrase the positive side of being different. If i can be different yet appealing at the same time, then things should start to work better for me.

If you reelly care about him and he cares about you, and if as you say you were starting to fall for him before you actaully broke up with your ex, then he probably isnt a rebound. And if you care about eech other, then who cares if he is anyway?

Allthogh, i do see what lowfreq50 meens as well. The distance is probably a bigger obsticle than it beeng soon after brakin up with your last bf.

Congratulations. It is good to hear of success.