Why pressure others to marry, have kids by a certain age?

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I seem to think that is partly the reason behind me feeling like "time is running out" and it's like you hit a certain age and it's like "bong!" That's it. I seem to think it was starting in my late 20s and now a few years later it's becoming almost obsessive and finding it hard to shake off the thoughts and it makes feel like to the 30s are not as "free" and "enjoyable" as the 20s and I want to sometimes enjoy my own company as a single man without having this nagging thought in my head because I've gone through the 20s and into the 30s without many dates and no experiences with long term relationships and settling down when by now someone of my age might be married and has one or two children by now.

Again I don't want to blame people like my dad as I love my dad and I know he maybe just wants what's best for me but I seem to think telling me to start really knuckling down just exacerbating the anxiety and self imposed pressure. I feel like I am a few years younger than I actually am and still not "ready" when by now some of my peers are ready.

You're writing yourself off my friend

Also you spend so much time worrying about this stuff and catastrophising that I doubt whether you'll even notice a good thing if and when it does come along

Population growth is great for governments.
More labour to pay tax to pay retirements.
Many countries now have too many old people and not enough young people to support them.

So there is this pressure from this source.
Also there are old religious values, which I suppose might have been from the
same sorts of reasons (have lots of kids so you will be taken care of etc).

But more broadly it's just one of those many stupid things that people try get you
to do so they can be more comfortable in their existence because their entire truth
is based on consensus and following the crowd and they really have nothing of value to
contribute because they are too scared to be themselves.

Ignore it. It's hard, but just ignore them. I have ignored many life goals and whatnot and it gets easier.