Hardly dated and feel like time is running out for dates

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17 Feb 2025, 11:54 am

I get adverts on my phone of joining bumble with people who are 29, 30, 32 etc on the videos getting you to sign up and a colleague mentioned about joining it and another recommendation like hinge but I always find myself doing other things and not getting on it and what dissuades me is this feeling as though I "must join urgently" because of my age as though all of sudden you are "not attractive or interesting anymore". People like my mum have tried to persuade and reassure me as she knows a colleague in her late 20s going out with a boyfriend in his mid 30s but the thought keeps coming back.



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17 Feb 2025, 12:11 pm

What are your preferences when it comes to dating


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17 Feb 2025, 12:45 pm

babybird wrote:
What are your preferences when it comes to dating


What do you mean?



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17 Feb 2025, 12:49 pm

Well looks personality, interests,

Cultural stuff and stuff


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17 Feb 2025, 2:02 pm

babybird wrote:
Well looks personality, interests,

Cultural stuff and stuff


When you say personality do you mean mine or someone I looking to date ?



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17 Feb 2025, 2:23 pm

Yours


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17 Feb 2025, 3:02 pm

A lot of people are stuck in terrible relationships.
Some people even have kids to make them last longer (!).
You might have missed a bullet here. Relationships are hard work and kids even harder.
There is a lot you can do to have a rich fullfilling life, and in fact people who die alone are totally fine.

Stop looking at bumble ads and do something fun.



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17 Feb 2025, 3:04 pm

babybird wrote:
Yours


I actually meant someone else's :lol:


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17 Feb 2025, 4:41 pm

Perhaps it is time to STOP propping up marriage and children?

There are more paths to life fulfillment than getting married and becoming a mother!! !

Seriously...



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18 Feb 2025, 2:14 am

Is it my imagination or have you changed your attitude to relationships etc


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18 Feb 2025, 2:44 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Perhaps it is time to STOP propping up marriage and children?

There are more paths to life fulfillment than getting married and becoming a mother!! !

Seriously...


I think the OP is referring to dating not marriage.



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18 Feb 2025, 11:28 am

^but dating usually leads to marriage...



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18 Feb 2025, 1:51 pm

People go into and out of relationships all the time, at any age. There isn't a set limit but also waiting for years just means you miss out on loads of time you could have been searching



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18 Feb 2025, 2:20 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
^but dating usually leads to marriage...


Ah. That's why I am not married. I need to date first?



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18 Feb 2025, 3:27 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
^but dating usually leads to marriage...


Usually is a bit of an overstatement.

If it usually did, a lot more people would be married to the first person they dated.


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18 Feb 2025, 3:28 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
Mikurotoro92 wrote:
^but dating usually leads to marriage...


Ah. That's why I am not married. I need to date first?


Typically, unless arranged marriages are the norm in your culture (or subculture).


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