Worried women will expect me to be "experienced" at 30+

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I seem to think that is another thing that sometimes makes me "what's the point now?" with dating.

I remember reading something on quora, where I a 36 year old single guy was "super depressed" and lying there in a dark room and somebody responded "I'm going to be brutally honest. Its way harder at 36. Most women you should be dating are mature and gonna want a man with experience. I will assume your lack of experience is too creepy for younger women.

You will have to come to terms with the fact that if you do decide to date, it will be a single mom and I doubt you are ready to be a step-dad. You gotta take things slow but you have to take steps.

Not all women have kids at that age. Not all women want kids.

There’s a lot of women out there with different viewpoints and preferences.

Some women have similar experience/inexperience. Others won’t care if a guy has less experience than they do.
Even if a woman has kids, not that all do by any means, she wouldn’t necessarily want the guy she’s seeing to take on a father figure role.

I know what you mean there
I didn't want to get into a relationship with someone who had kids because I'm just not into all that family stuff but my last boyfriend actually had no kids and he was in his 50s so not everyone has kids

And I know you're gonna say "but it's different for women blah blah blah".

You need to get out there mate and make an effort I happen to think you're quite a nice person

I also was worried about experience,
but when I vented these worries to some women, they didn't much care because of my other qualities, such as principles,
honesty, integrity and humour.

I also think that probably all partners would have some "getting to know each other" phase of awkwardness,
because everyone's preferences are different and people don't share this publicly, so I don't think it's really
possible for "experience" to matter all that much.

yeah, somethings will always be the same

"Experienced" probably also means having an understanding of basic social expectations. Maybe find some books or videos that spell things out.

Experienced at...? sex.. romance ... Practice small soft genuine smiles , if you can with your face .. if she wants to be with you . And she dont know , what you don't know and visa versa....practice being physically soft with that special someone. And if you dont have best communication..better let their be a practice period , where you talk or figure out , whose liking what ...? ..or not ? liking...fyi. ..if you be genuine , good ice breakers include single flowers ..a Rose.
But pretty sure these ideas went away with my generation. Prolly things went in favour of the ancient , Wham...Bam,...
Thank you Mam ( Gawd hopes she is not allergic to flowers).
Written by : a true version of a Antiquarian , of the Human variety.