The Modesty Movement: A New Hope?

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"Hi, Slut!"

There is a metal go-go cage in which a group of Duke girls clad in tiny denim skirts and halters perform a modified pole dance, but no one seems to be watching. . . . Much to the disappointment of many students, female and male, there's no real dating scene at Duke—true for a lot of colleges. "I've never been asked out on a date in my entire life—not once," says one stunning brunette. Nor has a guy ever bought her a drink. "I think that if anybody ever did that, I would ask him if he were on drugs," she says. Rather, there's the casual one-night stand, usually bolstered by heavy drinking and followed the next morning by—well, nothing, usually. "You'll hook up with a guy, and you know that nothing will come out of it," says Anna. The best thing you can hope for, she says, "is that you'll get to hook up with him again."

—Janet Reitman, Rolling Stone, June 1, 2006

When Rolling Stone magazine starts to read like the National Review, then clearly something has gone very wrong. Not since the Cuban missile crisis of 1962 has there been such bipartisan agreement that we have a problem. It is certainly puzzling. On the one hand, girls are more educated and women more successful in business than ever before. At the same time, girls report that in their private lives, they are feeling enormous pressure to be sexually active and don't know how to say no. Numerous studies from left, right, and center have shown that when women get to college, they are extremely dissatisfied with the lack of a "dating scene." They long to be taken out but instead are made to feel they are weird if they don't "go with the flow" of the hookup scene instead. "The guy means nothing to you" is the socially correct view to adopt. Even an article in a women's magazine encouraging the sisterhood to be happy as singles—"Down with the Husband Hunt!" was the charming title—the author had to admit that she "succumbs . . . from time to time" to the theory "that we are living in a lopsided dating universe in which the cards are all stacked in favor of the guys." Kerry Ball, twenty-nine, of Miami, told her, "Men are just looking for girls to mess around with rather than have a relationship with or even simply date. There are so many single girls looking for relationships that these guys have no trouble finding someone to sleep with them." The number of unmarried women between ages thirty and thirty-four has more than tripled during the past thirty years, and the percentage of childless women in their early forties has doubled. You might say that the "glass ceiling" has shifted from work to women's personal lives.

Hey this is actually good news for me. My approach to relationships is actually going to be appreciated by women. Being a virgin and waiting till marriage will be a good thing...

It's time to put the sexual revolution back in a cage.

If I see one more child that is dressed like a whore I am going to punch the parents in the face...

Not when 54.8% of American marriages fail within the first two years. Marriage is a faliure as social instiution since the point has died - which was consoilidate power between two familes. You lose any tax benefits in the divorce and end up giving the woman a check till the day you die. It's also easier to break up if you don't have to go through all that paperwork and court. And if you have kids they're too stupid care your not married.

Just don't trample on the rights of others to keep it out. Sex is a form of expression and therefore protected by the first amendment.

Their kid, their problem. Not your right to tell others how to use their first amendment rights.

But if someone is beating their child... well that's something I think most would want to stop.

I jump in and help them.
Really confuses the living
sh** out of everyone involved.

I blame Bratz.

the theory "that we are living in a lopsided dating universe in which the cards are all stacked in favor of the guys."

In fact, I date exactly like my mother did in the 50's.