List some AS traits that,

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.... women could find attractive in a man. I have been pondering this. There are some traits in Asperger's Syndrome that women look for subconsciously.

Well, let's take a look at our qualitative impairment in social interaction. Which of the following would most attract the ladies?:

(1) marked impairment in the use of multiple nonverbal behaviors such as eye-to-eye gaze, facial expression, body postures, and gestures to regulate social interaction;

(2) failure to develop peer relationships appropriate to developmental level;

(3) a lack of spontaneous seeking to share enjoyment, interests, or achievements with other people; or

(4) Lack of social or emotional reciprocity.

Then, looking at our restricted repetitive and stereotyped patterns of behavior, interests, and activities, which of these would most attract the ladies?:

(1) encompassing preoccupation with one or more stereo-typed and restricted patterns of interest that is abnormal either in intensity or focus;

(2) apparently inflexible adherence to specific, nonfunctional routines or rituals;

(3) stereotyped and repetitive motor mannerisms (e.g., hand or finger flapping or twisting, or complex whole-body movements); or

(4) persistent preoccupation with parts of objects.

Or, could it be the clinically significant impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning?

I don't know. Which of these would women be seeking, either consciously or subconsciously, in a man?

Your sarcastic approach has left your thinking staggeringly narrow.

I think the following could be what women might find attractive in AS men:

1) Appearance of being aloof -- meaning "hard to get"

2) Intelligence -- pure and simple

3) Thinking outside of the box -- creative thinking that typical males can't seem to manage

4) Innocence -- some women like a man they can nurture

5) Total unconcern for normal conventions, which makes them highly interesting if you're looking for someone outside the norm

6) Loyalty -- if an AS man falls for you, he generally falls hard, and will be loyal to a woman long after he should be

For a woman who has done the rounds of dating insensitive NT men (not all NT's are insensitive, but there is a pretty large group in the NT population), an AS man might be highly appealing.

Kris

Wait a minute--are THESE the diagnostic criteria for Asperger's Syndrome?

Are you truly as unperceptive as to not see that Kris listed traits generally held by those that meet AS criteria?

Highly focused interests, that might be attractive or appealing to women who are into those special interests because Aspies are thought of as knowing a lot about what they like, with good reason. But all the good things are offset by the social impairment, which is very important. Very important in the sense that it might drive off any potential interests, without the Aspie in question even knowing. -.-;

hmm, that depends on what kind of relationship the woman is looking for.

i guess, we have it a bit harder as trophy boyfriends/husbands, as we most likely arent even conscious of the social standards we have to fulfill for that to work (to make us be considered a trophy to begin with).

for a true, trusting, long-term relationship, we might score higher. i guess, most of us will always have our little world (of our obsessions) to draw back to, no matter how much we share life. most of us also are quite honest and outspoken about problems - rather stating the problem and trying to get it solved than having weird reasons for drawing the matter out, not talking about it, eventually erupting.
isnt that a lot of what you hear and read about what kind of partnerships hold long? all the articles speak about not sitting on each other all the time and solving problems openly and right away.
sounds good to me, and sounds definitely like something i can see myself doing.