help!! ! - will i ever find a girl!! !

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im 19 male and im a shy aspie and i hav nvr kissed a girl before, but i want to find a girl to be with. this girl i really like and she knows i like her is coming dwn 2 c me soon so i need some help in how to pull her successfully but first of all just kiss her!! any help wud b greatly recieved thx

Learn to write, and give her a letter.

Take your time. Nineteen and worried that you don't have a girlfriend? I was nearly 22 when I had my first night out with a girl. Us AS sufferers sometimes take longer than usual but we always get it right in the end.

Ed Almos.

Don't make me mention the 'D' word.....

D word?

Tim

Ed?

I have noticed you continually refer to people with Asperger's Syndrome as 'sufferers'. Are you always 'suffering' from your AS? There are lots of times I am not 'suffering'.

it just sounds so defeating that you 'suffer' from your natural state.

Merle

From the complaint about harassing people
with dyslexia. But, if the OP doesn't have some
disability which forces them to write in netspeak
(and too much wow don't count), they really do
need to learn to communicate effectively.

Hell, even if.

If a girl is coming to see you and you want to kiss her, you need to be able to read the situation.
You need to see if she's showing interest in you. Like touching you, asking questions about you, keeps eye contact, etc. If she does those types of things, then she's interested and wouldn't be afraid to be kissed.
When you kiss her, you need to be alone. When the conversation pauses, make eye contact and hold it. If she doesn't move away or break eye contact after two seconds or so, move your head in and kiss her.

Simple. But takes balls.

i almost passed out (literally) when i had my first kiss. So be ready for some overstimulation lol.

my advice is that don't worry about what happens, take it easy, and learn from the experience. If the girl likes you then she likes you, if she doesnt then she doesnt. There's no way to lose in these matters. The only way to lose is not learning from the experience.

about the kiss, it's really a series of steps, not just the kiss. id follow alyks advice. First you have to touch her slightly in her hands or arms (without showing much interest, just like if you were uninterested or thinking in something else). From that point on you will begin to notice if she is interested.

You and me both.

I'm 19, I'm nervious when it comes to talking to girls and never been kissed by a girl either.

Aw, I sympathize.
But you never know, sometimes the girl will end up making the first move.

I tend to be very open to guys, whereas alot of girls tend to just date a certain "type" and reject the rest. I give everyone a chance, because I would want to be treated that way.

But I think I am a rarity.

Don't give up! It will all be okay! Don't worry.

HI
Listen in, I am about to save you time and worry.

no 1 Don’t listen to half the rubbish posted on your forum
no 2 Just sit her down and tell her straight
no 3 Tell her the truth that your embarrassed
no 4 Tell her, if you’ve read the situation wrong then your sorry and you hope she understands
no 5 If you’ve read it right, just say can " I kiss you"

no 6 If all goes well then job done just don’t start making is too complicated and getting carried away
no 6 If it all goes to s**t then just remember, f**k her theirs plenty more when you get up off your arse and go looking.

if you can bring yourself to do it, this is probably the best way to go. the only gf i've had, this is exactly how we started dating (i had never kissed anyone b4). in any case, her physical response will clearlly tell you how she feels about it (in my case, she kissed me back. then she said she was unsure how she felt about me, but i knew how she felt - i correctly trusted her response to the kiss more than her later verbal response. it lead to a 5-yr relationship. ).
if you cannot make yourself do it, then just tell her how you feel as honestly and as fully as possible (if you do kiss her, tell her this right after - it worked for me). if you cannot make yourself do it in person, do it in writing.

I had my first girlfriend, and kiss at 17. I was too shy, and I was set up on a blind date with her, and it went from there. I have had girlfriends who I got without a blind date. I have no clue what I did right. I know that they all are psycho. I don't know that to tell you other than get up the nerve, and try to hold your brain functioning, and tell her you like her. It's worth the chance. Obviously she likes you in some way if she's coming to see you.

I'm not big on the whole eye contact thing,
but I've started kissing people a LOT more
recently. I find that I just take their face
in my hand, and can judge from their reaction
to that. Then a slow draw forward. But, these
aren't people that I really know, so I'm not
sure if things would be different.

Talk to every chick on the planet and your odds of finding one to talk to more will go up by 10000000%