Moving to Meet Women

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Has anyone considered moving to another town or state to meet women? Now, I don't live in a sleepy town in the middle of no where, but I'm just not meeting any appealing single women.I live in St. Louis, which is in the Midwest, and it seems, besides bars and nightclubs, there aren't really any places where single young women congregate. I have heard the West Coast is considered more "progressive" and "tolerant" than the Midwest, which makes me wonder if the women I do meet there would be more open to dating an aspie. Also, maybe some other city simply has more attractive single women than St. Louis.

It's a pretty drastic move since I'd have to get a new job, find a place to live, and be far away from anyone I know, but I'm having strong doubts I'll ever meet someone here.

Has anyone else considered moving to meet women?

I doubt it. St. Louis's a pretty big city.
Ah, it ain't like some places, but there was
a rebirth around the old Gaslight Square,
no?

I just looked Gaslight Square up on Google, and it appears to be around the neighborhood known as the Central West End. I live out in the suburbs actually, and I'm not sure what the Gaslight Square is. (Maybe the problem is I'm not familiar with events and places in St. Louis despite having lived here all my life to know where and when to meet people; it's not like I have friends who would invite me to these things.)

Haven't been there in a good 20 years,
but I seem to remember a kinda rockin'
night scene was starting then. If you are
in the suburbs, you are screwed. That's
pretty much my take, at least.

I need a city, to meet people.

Moving for that reason doesn't strike me as a great idea (not that that should have any meaning for you). I heard recently that California has 118 men for every 100 women. Not great odds for you.

I moved 3000 miles all the way to Washington state to do this and it was among the biggest mistakes of my life. Im not down talking traveling just to be with someone special, because I plan on doing it again soon. You have to make sure that they are trustworthy and they feel the same about you first, otherwise it just wont work. Trust me.

I'll never move for that reason. Way too big of a change for just that reason.

I would. Indeed, I stuck around where I
am, because this is a good town for me,
in terms of people.

But, I hate the weather, and there ain't a
lot of job prospects. Still, seemed as good
as anything, given that love is more important
than anything else to me - I guess.

Hell no , I won't sacrifice my stability for such reason . With my all respect to women , but they are not everything in men's life.

...and you might have the same problem in the new place as well .

This is my worry. He'd be leaving what
may be a perfectly fine city, without ever
having tasted it.

After graduating from college, I plan to move to Seattle to meet liberal, South Park-loving Aspie women.

Tim

I don't go to bars or nightclubs; I don't drink (personal reasons), and I don't dance (not particularly coordinated). Plus going to such places, especially when I'm completely unfamiliar with how it all operates, is asking for confusion, anxiety, and possibly conflict (as in physical).

Ok, I can understand avoiding
the club scene, but I'm not clear
on what you do to actively try and
find people, where you are.

If you're doing a lot, then maybe
a move is in order. Me, I run into
people (not that I'm capable of interacting
well) all the time, when I just hang about
in the city. But, in a suburban environment,
one tends to lead a less exposed life,
and it must be even harder.

From personal experience, whenever
I've not been in a city (my formative years,
and then for a couple years as an adult
recently), I was miserable, and met no one
new ever.

I sometimes go to a nearby Borders that's in a mall; I've spent a lot of time reading there (free reading!), and I haven't noticed a very large number of women between, say, 19 and 24 there. I sometimes go out to eat and go to retail stores to make purchases as needed. Outside work, this is about all the social exposure I get. I've been using online social networks to search for women without success (two years trying).

When I was in college, though, I talked to women all the time all over the place: classes, the library, the gym, the cafeteria, the dorms. I think I must have talked to so many different women that they started talking to each other to avoid me instead of engaging in a few minutes of polite conversation, which is what happened at first.

I'm just thinking the women are a little different here, perhaps more conservative in taste. If a guy is seen as different or not quite normal, they're not interested. I assume there are other places in the world where a guy who is intelligent, thoughtful, considerate, a bit odd, not afraid to speak his mind when necessary, and having an (unusual) sense of humor would be considered desirable instead of something to settle for.

Maybe, but I'd suggest hanging out
in some local coffeeshops, and such first.
Not Starblechs, but more bohemian places.
Maybe with some Jazz playing. Or poetry
readings.

Most larger cities do have a bit of something
going on. If you stick to the citadels of suburban
life, like Borders, that's indeed what you'll find -
anywhere in this homogeneous country.

Even rural towns are better.

I don't know about America. But if you live in the UK, move to Telford. 2.6 single women for every single man.

With this ratio, you WILL meet a lady easily, even as an Aspie. I have visited there and seen it for myself.