Too stiff or just being polite?

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I've found it rather difficult during a date this last weekend to determine when a girl is interested, or if she's just playing around to not let me down so harshly. I would claim Asperger's had some part in it, but it doesn't help when said female wants to cuddle, and continues to carry on a conversation as though she is truly interested.

The main complaint was that I was too polite and cautious on a first date. Granted, wearing a full suit and tie to a very casual get-together isn't the brightest idea. However, I prefer a suit for casual wear simply because I look good in it.

Also, the true cause seemed to revolve more around the lack of conversation I was able to share. For me, there wasn't much for me to add to the conversation, which consisted of subjects primarily focused on HER obscure interests in special effects make-up, getting high, and how she needs to quit smoking. None of these apply to me, and all I could do is my simple, fairly Ramius-like, brooding "Hmm..."

I should have gone with "Do you expect me to talk, Goldfinger?"

My question involves two parts. First, how do I easily transition to a subject I can discuss so I can be casual and hold a conversation that has no bearing whatsoever on anything I know (almost seemed deliberate), and secondly, how in the hell can a female be such a deceitful pain in the a** that she cuddles and kisses and what-not on a first date, but simply switches off all emotion like a light?

I find it irritating that this chick, not to mention the others I have dealt with, seem to have no concept of honesty. Is this another gender adaptation, where the female of the species' survival tactic is simply to lie?

If she makes it that complicated just on the first date... I can't imagine it getting any better. It's okay to reject girls that just act ridiculous...

Advice I can give is, when conversation is on some topic that I am uninterested in... I attempt to find something clever or funny about the topic. Perhaps even pointing out something obviously ridiculous... in a fun way, not condescending.

I guess I could put your advice to use, but I find I don't want a girl who expects me to talk much. I dislike talking to others when I'm expected to talk to them, or their respect given to me is exponentially proportional to what I say and how often I say it (such as "Abercrombie and Fitch is cool!" or "I like getting high, too!", or better yet... "OMG WTF wanna get laid?").

I need a thinking, brooding female, who likes things quiet.

I see. That would be nice to have, the first connection to be delving into deep thoughts.

It seems like most though want to have "fun" on a date... even those of the brooding variety.

Maybe... I think I've seen and talked with the kind of woman you are talking about. It's kind of difficult to get them to go out on dates...