Why do people date over the Internet?

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I'm going to put it first that I am an extremely arrogant person who rarely considers viewpoints that are different from my own. I hate to say it, but it's the truth(If you haven't already realized from reading any of my previous post).

I just do not understand why people use the Internet to date- If I wanted a girlfriend I would go to one of my classes and start hiting on girls.

Why do people use the Internet? Is it just me that feels it is weird to date someone you have neevr met before in your whole life in an online chat channel?

Everyone has their reasons for online dating.

Some people feel uncomfortable approaching people, and feel better chatting online.

Others want to find people with similar interests (or filter out who they don't want), and would feel weird interrogating people to see what they're like. This is the reason I use it.

Tim

People date strangers all the time, so why aren't you asking about Speed Dating, or people who go on Blind Dates? I honestly don't see what's not to understand, it's just another Tool for getting to know people, and people go on dates with people they've never met before in person all the time. I think it's just mental laziness on your part.

I do not know why people `hit` on girls in inappropiate situations,it seems an inept, animalistic pasttime of low IQ people.
It seems very weird to go to nightclubs and select (or be selected) a mate based on frivolous small talk and superficial shallow ideas of beauty.

I suppose that I can answer this question since I did find my husband through computers. Long story short, it seems that guys are attracted to me initially because of my uniqueness, and then later become unattracted to me because of.......my uniqueness. Apparently the unattractiveness of my uniqueness is less obvious on a computer screen. Unfortunately I did not know about my AS back in my dating days. If I had known, I would likely have dated Aspies and had a better chance of at least having one person in my life who understands me.

I find it much easier to assess someone
in person, than by reading some profile.
I mean a quick taste of what they are really
like. Never saw anything on the dating sites
that really struck a chord, and told me that
I should contact them. Reached out a couple of
times, but with no real will - all I had seemed
superficial. Never got around to meeting the
people.

Message boards, on the other hand, do give me
some idea (but unlike in person, I may not always
be right). There are people here, that I'd like to
meet.

i've met some very lovely people over the internet. i think that any way of broadening your circle of possible future friends and lovers is good. i find this difficult in 'person' because i suffer some social anxiety and simply being out takes so much energy that i have very little energy left to meet new people and make conversation etc.

Did that method work for you? How good were the results? People are using the internet to find dates for the same reason. It works for them, and gets them the results they want.

I can see the internet as a potential common choice among aspies. Heck, if I were to not be able to get a girlfriend by...say the age of 28, I might consider trying the internet. I'd say that method works better than trying unsuccessfully to get a girlfriend in person. Though internet dating does have its downsides. I'm hoping I'll never have to worry about that.

Well, I did it to find a wife. And it worked. Not a great wife, mind you...not even a good one, but a wife nonetheless. Didn't last, thankfully.

Do you mean just meeting people over the internet, or having long-distance relationships?

I think you're mistaken. People don't meet people online to date them online. They meet them online and move on to real life. I'd never consider anyone here my friend, as much as I'd never consider a guy I "met" online a boyfriend unless we were actually dating in real life.

I use match.com because I have no way of meeting people outside work. I've completed university and grad school isn't that great for meeting friends/dates according to my friends.

I know a lot of people younger than me claim to date people online when in fact they've never met them. Maybe that's what you're talking about and I agree it's very strange.

Maybe because they have AS and nothing else is working for them?

I imagine it could mean either.

And is that M. Bison on your avatar? I played the Street Fighter games a lot during my teen years.

Tim

Heh, ya, I used to play that too in my teens. Had a MAJOR crush on Chun Li.

Sure is!

But speaking on topic here....

People find dates on the internet for varioius reasons. They might not feel like going out, or they might not have had much success going out. They also might not know where to go in their town to find the kinds of people they'd like. They could also be new to town.

As to why people have long-distance internet relationships? I have no idea. I personally don't get it myself.