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Hey everyone,

I'm pretty confused.

I got a great Aspie friend of mine who is a girl and I'm not sure if she likes me.

Well, she told me that she likes me and likes to talk to me. She pretty much likes me calling her daily and having lunch with her at the college.

I like her too, plus I can't help having alittle crush. Sometimes the word "Love" mumbles randomly out from my sighing when I am alone in my room.

I think I might have some strong feelings for her. I'm not sure if she knows it.

And even though the clues of the daily phone calling plus having sympathy over the rough moments of my life, I'm not sure if she wants to start a deeper relationship with me.

I once invited her to meet up some weekend but she told me that she wants to get to know me first at school.

Now it's been about 2 weeks and she did thank me for letting her learn about me more. So I asked about the weekend idea again, she said "I'll cheak my weekends and see what's going on"

She hasn't mentioned anything about it just yet.



So pretty much what I'm trying to say is, how can I ask her what kind of relationship does she want us to be in. Just friends, or does she want to go further?

I feel like I'm in a position that never moves. I'm stuck with intellegent conversations only. That's how I felt most of my life, just someone to talk with. I want to feel like I can do more. Make a strong difference in someone's life. Help with personal problems, etc?

I don't mean to rush this but I feel a strong connection with her, and I feel that I can make a difference if I could take it to the next level.


I want to say this to her in a certain way.

1. To tell her how I feel and get an answer to this fusterating question

2. Do it in away where it will not presure or over-welm her in any way.


From knowing her so far and discussing Aspie related subjects, she told me that she never likes any person getting angry not even herself. So I don't think she will yell at me.

I want to tell her tomarrow.

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Thank You and have a nice day,

_Eric

She has AS also?

Then why don't you tell her you like her directly? The worst that can happen is that she says she wants to just be friends.

Of course if you don't want to do this face to face you can do it over a phone call. I am assuming you are in high school so if the answer is no then you have to deal with the random stare you get from her for the next 2-3 years.

One of my friends asked this girl out for me in like 7th grade who I had a crush on and she said no.

The next 6 years we would just stare at each other in the halls and I don't believe we ever talked. Kinda weird if they say no.

Sounds like she's giving you an answer.
Hard to tell what pushing directly might
do.

Okay, that sounds like a good idea.

I'll try it out tonight. It's risk taking, but I guess I got to risk it and go with my gut.

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Thank You and have a nice day,

_Eric

Tell her you like her but you mention the word "girlfriend" or any GF-related terms, that could scare her off.

Just be careful.

Is that the same aspie girl who is taller than you that you told us about in the other thread?

if yes ..then sorry pal but there's a very high probability that she doesn't like you back , girls usually are not attracted to guys shorter than themselves and this is a well-known fact .

Anyways I think that you should do option 1 ...ask her straight and end the issue at once.

It's kind of strange. I think she likes me but at the same time, I'm not sure. One time I asked her for lunch at our College and see replyed "I Love to have lunch with you"

and on another email she said "I love to hear from you"

But on the phone, she hasn't used the word "love". Only on the emails.

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Thank You and have a nice day,

_Eric

Don't kill yourself like I do...

Don't read too much into the details.

If you like her, just ask her. It'll be easy enough to know where she stands after that... maybe.