What's wrong with me

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I feel broken.


I don't like to be kissed very much, be hugged or be cuddled that much. My boyfriend thinks it's probably the AS because that's what he read in Pretending to be Normal that aspies have troubles with affection. But I was very affectionate when we first met and then I got tired of it so I stopped so me not showing it much or wanting it can't be the AS. Now I lost my sex drive but I think it was the shot that did it because the doctor did say it lowers it. I'm hoping going to Spokane again with my boyfriend (if that ever happens) will raise it again and I have it again there because going there has raised it up because I wanted it very bad when I was there but had to restrain myself.

Medication is well known for having such an effect. What was the shot for? Can you expect everything to revert to normal gradually or not?

I get told that I get the same way,
People will tell me all the time that I'm unempathetic, and/ or cold,
That's why I suppose a lot of my relationships failed; I didn't seem caring enough,
It's annoying when you get accused of not caring enough.

Birth control. It was also for my period cramps. They were getting so bad every month I told my doctor about it and he gave me a list of options and I chose the shot because of no period cycle.

Well, the pill made me lose my sex drive for the short time I was on it. I never attempted any birth control apart from condoms since, but my friends tell me that they've tried out different kinds of pills/shots, eventually found one that suits them and didn't have any side effects, and stuck with it. So you could say to your doctor that the shot has not been good for you and you need to move to something different.

Maybe you and your boyfriend could try something new/do something new with eachother to spark an urge to cuddle or show affection for both of you? I can understand why the shot may have lowered your sex drive, but you may be a little too routine in other areas, do you think?

are you attracted to him?

Can you go back to a doctor? I've known women who were severely affected by that shot and I've read up a lot about the side effects. If these changes coincide with the date you received it, I would recommend looking into getting on a pill instead now. Too much progestin is very difficult for some women to handle.

You should also, like Kilroy said, ask yourself whether this relationship is really the right one for you. In another thread you hinted at maybe feeling pressured ... if you're not feeling secure with this guy, it's not likely that you'll feel the urge to be touched by him.

I'm attracted to his personality.

^^ so you are not attracted to him.

She is.

Men: Looks are the attractor
Women: Personality is the attractor.

She's attracted to her BF, but the flame's went out.

Spokane, has he been more submissive and/or less himself lately? Chances are, you're not feeling the attraction anymore, and if that's the case, you may want to let your man know you need some attention. I dont think it's so much the AS, but rather that initial strong attraction is fading away. Try playing a bit more hard to get, but not so much that he get's fed up. Put in that challenge, and he'll come back right quick.

That's not totally true so your post is .....



WRONG.

Looks are the initial attractor for both.

If I said something like this,

I would normally be talking about someone I had cared for deeply but had ceased to be physically attracted to - and be feeling very very guilty about it! A substabtial element of being attracted to somebody has to do with their personality, but the way I experience it is normally is that I will find myself also becoming attracted to the man's physical appearance, if I like his personality.

Probably not good to infer my own feelings onto others, though. How is it going, Spokane_Girl, have you still been feeling the same?

What crushing irony that the pill kills your sex drive.

I personally think it is an AS thing. I am in my second marriage and have had the same problems. I was diagnosed about a year ago, but a little too late. My husband and I were intimate when we were first together, but it faded fast. and most of the time I can't stand to be kissed touch or anything.,

Obviously you've either settled for his looks or his personality was a bigger draw to begin with, otherwise that would have just been a yes.