how to tell a girl you're not interested?

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hi

The girl in my office (who already is happy in a relationship) fancies me and is not backing down. We are close in interaction in the office and walk to get lunch together etc. (although today I said no). I am very kind as I am with most people, but she plays mind games all day with me, trying to get a reaction out of me. She KNOWS she is annoying me and I feel helpless and bullied in a way because i'm having to REALLY focus on articulating myself accurately, I am being passive with hope that she will end her persistance, inside I want to explode with negativity but I think i'm in a catch 22 here

She also knows that I relate with Aspergers as we've had discussions about this (although i am self-diagnosed) but she doesn't seem to care about that, such a surreal situation as it appears she wants a fling or somethin, but i'm not interested, I am emotionally...well repressed and screwed up anyway!

I feel as if i'm being treated really unfairly and I don't know how to act or what to say to her because EVERYTHING I do is misread and secondly she uses her psychology skills and plays on my vulnerable side, i'm like a little game to her

This whole thing happens to me at my badminton club too with another girl, and the only way I remember how I defend myself is to use the same speech template with her also.

Advice please, how do you tell girls you're not interested?

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