I CAN'T DO IT!! :(

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My horrible ex has left such a block... I simply can't find the soul to ask the girl I like out...
Anyone give me a little help? I ain't one for letting the chance slip I couldn't comprehend or bear that thought...

I have to make the move sooner or later... even if it's online. I talked to her tonight online... met her on Tuesday... couldn't do it either time.

I guess I'm just a begger when it comes to this stuff because I'm begging for more help. :/
Should I make the move when she's online again? It's not just this stuff though - socially things aren't great and I live with a family of NT's in a s**t surrounding town that my fairly ok town leads into...

It's harsh and I need to make the move. Please?

I'm starting to sound a bit pathetic aren't I...

Sorry to bug people like this... it could be a big relief to just make the move.

Well I refuse to become a slave to this emotion... I think maybe I already am but asking her out will allow me to break free.

Still not enough info to go on, even though I've been following your story quite closely. And no, I don't think you're bugging anyone. Or at least not me.

What are things like when you get together with this girl? Fun? Happy?

Any idea what, exactly you're afraid of? Rejection? Her being a mean girlfriend?

Rejection is something I fear yes...

This girl is a Wiccan Gothic Witch. I do seem to like mean girls but... I am rather hoping she wouldn't be mean in the bad sense of the word. lol and my ex was nasty and was mean in the bad sense of the word I feel... she controlled and that was uncalled for - taking advantage of an aspie ay? Another one of them stories...
So I struggle to trust girls sometimes.

I missed a chance tonight... umm I guess this problem is enforced by a family who struggle to know how to help me when I'm low and offer me advice about getting up on my feet that sure may suit an NT but I'm not an NT. The only family member I can connect with is off to some University on the other side of England.

Yes they're fun and happy times. We like being mean to each other.

Although not mean in a bad way obviously. She's just a very teasing girl... lol a lot of humour there is... and a lot of laughing and all that.

Get super interested in it, and there we go. If shes single then Im sure she will at least "try you out". If she says no, thats not nearly as bad as her saying yes and then leading you on or something. Not to get you paranoid about that though lol, Im sure everything will be fine from that point on.

I hope dude... I guess she won't lose respect for me if I ask her out...

Yeah man just be yourself.

Myself scares me. lol

Trust me on this one, go ahead and ask her out. If you don't, you'll drive yourself crazy with the "what ifs?".

It's better to know outright than to continue ruminating and obsessing over it in your head.

Thanks. Even if it's online? I'm thinking weekend at the latest... she may be less tired and less work fatigued on the weekend...

Thanks gwenevyn, username88 and Spot17.
Still open for help. I'm just pre-thanking lol.

There's nothing wrong with asking someone out online. In fact, it probably takes a lot of the pressure off.

Alright weekend at the latest... although - I'm never certain about NT behavior particularly strange cultures like Wiccans lol - asking her out on a weekday just the same as asking her out on the weekend?

What does "asking out" mean, again?

Is it "Will you see a movie with me?"

Or is it, "Hey we've been hanging out for a while now... are you my official girlfriend?"

The latter... I want to say something like "Can I ask you something Heather? I'm not really sure how to say this though"
Hoping she'll say something like "Go on" or "Yeah sure"
Then me saying "Well... umm... you know that I like you lol and we've known eachother for a few months now and well... will you go out with me?"
Hoping she'll then say "Yes" lol or preferably "Hell yeah! You make me complete!" lol but the latter is probably unlikely.

If you're asking her to be your girlfriend, you might want to say something to the effect of "I'd like us to be exclusive" or "what do you think about us being exclusive?". That way there's no question in her mind as to what you're asking.