a chat with a random girl in IRC :)

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we were chating and she told me that she 's seeking for a bad guy and i started to know why :

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<Boo_1> so you are saying that nice guys = kids and bad guys = men
<LadyV> yes
<Boo_1> weird , last time i heard that both kinds have penises
<LadyV> hahahahahahahaha
<Boo_1> but u need to be gorgeous in order to have a bad boy . you said that u r ugly so no chance for u
<LadyV> i'm gonna cry
<Boo_1> you will live your life with a boring mr.nice shyguy
<LadyV> you think????
<Boo_1> yea
<Boo_1> that the destiny of every no pretty girl
<LadyV> ohhhh
<LadyV> so... are you or are you not a bad boy???
<Boo_1> gues
<Boo_1> guess*
<LadyV> mmmmmmm
<LadyV> i am terrible bad guessing
<Boo_1> give it a try
<LadyV> nice boy
<LadyV> you are nice and shy too
<LadyV> ?????
<Boo_1> but i can be a real jerk sometimes
<Boo_1> and u won't like this side
<LadyV> i think you are like mr. jekyll and mr. hyde
<Boo_1> hahaha
<LadyV> have you read that book??
<LadyV> good side and bad side
<Boo_1> hmmm
<LadyV> or Star Wars
<LadyV> hahahahah
<Boo_1> are you a psychologist?
<LadyV> mmmmm
<LadyV> why???'
<LadyV> i am analyzing you????
<Boo_1> why you are saying "mmmm" ? are you masturbating ?
<LadyV> not
<LadyV> hahahah
<LadyV> are you????
<Boo_1> ok ...we are havinga serious discussion now
<Boo_1> you can masturbate later
<Boo_1> geez
<LadyV> hahahahah
<LadyV> lol
<Boo_1> i know that i am a drop dead sexy ....but u need to control urself a bit
<Boo_1> ok....back to topic
<LadyV> hahahhaha
<LadyV> ok
<LadyV> back to topic
<Boo_1> what was the topic?
<LadyV> mmmm is for thinking
<LadyV> by the way
<Boo_1> u masturbate your brain?
<LadyV> NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
<LadyV> FORGET THE MASTURBATION PLEASE
<LadyV> HAHAHAH
<Boo_1> ok now .....now you are shouting
<Boo_1> ok what was the topic?
<LadyV> if you are or are not a bad boy???
<Boo_1> u already answered this question
<LadyV> you are nice and shy
<Boo_1> kinda
<LadyV> kinda???
<LadyV> ohh
<LadyV> i forget you have two personalities
<Boo_1> no, i have only one
<Boo_1> but different moods
<LadyV> ohhhhh
<Boo_1> and it can changes pretty fast
<LadyV> so ... how are you now???
<Boo_1> bored
<LadyV> why???
<LadyV> i am boring you???
<Boo_1> well , what do you expect ? i am talking with a ugly terrible ghost
<Boo_1> an*
<LadyV> maybe you can tell yourself some jokes
<Boo_1> ahh let me try
<Boo_1> hi Boo_1 wanna hear some jokes?
<Boo_1> Yes , why not?
<Boo_1> Ok here:
<LadyV> hahahah
<LadyV> hahahha
<LadyV> hahahah
<LadyV> and the joke
<Boo_1> how the archaeologists will identify pamela anderson in the future after 10000 years ?
<LadyV> how???
<Boo_1> easy ....but finding a skeleton all covered by silicon
<Boo_1> by*
<LadyV> hahahahha
<LadyV> good joke
<LadyV> i will write it down
<LadyV> and tell my friends
<Boo_1> hey? this joke was addressed to myself ...not to u !
<Boo_1> cheater!
<LadyV> hahahahaha
<LadyV> sorry
<Boo_1> so what's your definition of bad boy?
<LadyV> again?????
<Boo_1> again again!!
<Boo_1> u want again?
<LadyV> again the definition!! !! !! !
<LadyV> what do you think????
<Boo_1> ahh ....the definition okk
<Boo_1> stupid me
<LadyV> yes
<LadyV> hahahah
<Boo_1> oops
<LadyV> hey
<LadyV> question
<Boo_1> go ahead
<Boo_1> ask
<LadyV> do
<LadyV> you
<LadyV> have
<LadyV> msn???
<Boo_1> no ...i live in a cave
<Boo_1> never heard of msn or even windows before
<LadyV> hahahhaha
<LadyV> and how do you get here????
<Boo_1> magic
<LadyV> a ghost
<LadyV> hahahahah
<LadyV> scary!! !! !
<Boo_1> :-/ is that was supposed to be a joke?
<Boo_1> geez .... u need a hard work
<LadyV> ????
<Boo_1> anyways ... why u want my msn?
<LadyV> to chat in msn
<LadyV> of course
<Boo_1> wow :O
<Boo_1> ok here my msn : [email protected]
<LadyV> warrior
<LadyV> no boo
<LadyV> hahah
<Boo_1> warriors can be scary u know
<LadyV> yes i know
<LadyV> hahahah
<LadyV> add you
<Boo_1> oh.....god ! save me
<LadyV> why????
<Boo_1> forget it
<LadyV> hahahah

And you know that was a girl how?

That reminds me of an old chat log I saved from when I was a teenager.

Bravery, self-confidence, strength, the ability to stand up for ones self and others, the selective disobedience of rules of society instead of rigidly following them, all signs of maturity and attractive qualities in a partner. Love is one of the strongest bonds between two people. In fact if my husband had not been willing to disobey his parents and come live with me and my parents, we would not be married today. No one wants a moma's boy who just does what his mother says because it is what mom wants.

From my experience, girls keep the nice guys as their (best/very good) friends and the bad boys as their lovers.
When anything goes wrong with their lover, they'll go to the nice guys for comfort and care.

Well, I am not moma's boy and I do disobey my mother a lot even in faith issues . See , i am atheist while my mother is religious shiite muslim ,despite all her tries of persuade I became an atheist at an early age and this has caused few problems with her at first but i followed my own path afterall . Despite all that , I won' t favor any girl over my mother .

Besides , what all these qualities have to do with bad boy?

only a girl would talk like this .

How do you know that?

^^ because i saw her on cam ... and she was right about how she looks.

See, thats your problem right there! If you truly wanted love from a woman, you would need to break those sort of bonds and love her "more" than your mother. Even ugly stupid girls tend to have higher standards than that. I don't mean of course that you should leave your mother over just any girl, but the right girl, your true love who you would passionately give anything for, even die for, now that is the woman of your dreams. If you are not willing to make the sacrifice, then you are doomed to be a moma's boy.

It isn't just an internal rebellion that you need to make, but an external rebellion, one that shows signs in the whole of your life. You may not like this advice, and its not "nice", but because of who I am I am willing to do you favors. Your feelings don't concern me

Oh, and one more thing, your spiritual life is a real train wreck. I tried atheism for a bit, it does a terrible number on your mood and resilience. Remember the number of the gods is not 0.

. >>>Despite all that , I won' t favor any girl over my mother .

spare me the crap .

You are comparing between 2 completely different kinds of love , u r talking like if your husband's mother is your competitor . He did the right decision for not allowing his mother to fully control his love life but never believe that he will ever love you 'more' than his mother and even not more than his sisters (if he has sisters) , the bond between you and your husband is just a piece of paper after all ...if you both decide to get rid of this paper one day then there's nothing between you two.
You said that your husband decided to move far away from his parents to live with you AND with your parents ....are you really ready to do the other way around?




nice try .

That is the vibe that I get from a lot of guys. They generally like the sexy, outgoing, easy (excuse the term) girls (even if the girl is obnoxious) as girlfriends, and then the nice, sweet, not sexy but pretty, girls as just friends.
I mean its like most guys don't even feel like making an effort to get to know you. I don't know if its just because I have Asperger's, but I simply do not find it attractive when a guy purposely degrades, annoys, or insults me in order to get my attention.
Am I supposed to find his comments amusing or flattering? Strangely enough, I either feel degraded, annoyed, or insulted. Imagine that.

For most people, joking is a reasonable way to engage someone else. While it may seem derogatory, it may be wise to account for intent before getting annoyed or insulted, since most people don't care enough about most others to actually want to hurt them in that way.

I understand that, but I just think guys should know when they are taking it too far. For example, if a girl tells you to "stop it" then stop it. Even if you don't want to give up, at least try a different aproach.
All girls are NOT the same and I think that guys need to take that into account. I know it's way easier said than done, but get to know the girl first so you can understand when something annoys her and when something makes her happy. It sometimes hard to tell whether she is joking or if she is truely annoyed until you know her personality.
I probably sound completely naiive, but I'm just speaking from my aspie-girl point of view since most of the guides to meeting girls on here assume that the girl is socially adept, NT, and acts a certain way.

That's exactly the problem. No one knows much, if anything. To an extent, they're putting on a show, so ignoring them and moving away can be more effective as telling them to stop, depending on your inflection/tone/etc since they may just take that as you teasing back or something similar. Alternatively, you could phrase the command such that there's no room for misunderstanding, like yelling, but that may draw undue attention from others that you may not want. I think I avoid it because I tend to indicate that I'm not interested in social interaction, but, since you're in a different position socially (I ain't gonna lie about misogyny) you'll likely have to develop stronger forms of communication in order to convey that you don't want to interact socially.