Womens' Bodies.... What do guys ACTUALLY want???

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I'm curious about members' opinions on this, both as far as NTs and Aspies are considered. Just about men in general (or lesbians for that matter), what kind of female bodies are they really attracted to? Is it actually the trimmed/toned bodies we often see on TV and in movies (and games too), and magazines - all popularised and shoved down our throats? Or is it EQUALLY as common for men to want overweight girls?

I often hear the term "curvy" thrown around much too loosely, and I've become confused. Some will call the smooth, hourclass figure a curvy body, but others will consider curves to be more.... abundant all over the body (in the form of fat hanging around). None the less, I know this topic is not a straight answer, because everyones' tastes in looks vary. However, I'm just wondering how good a chance do slightly overweight girls have of dating (as far as being physically attractive goes)? What do you think?

I think it could really lean either way. I mean, it might depend how they dress/present themselves right? A girl with a trimmed body, might also wear way way too much makeup and really skimpy clothes, and looks like she is some whore or boy-toy. This may or may not be attractive to men, but I dunno. Where as other trim girls just might appear to be happy and confident, and a healthy weight, so then that's what helps them to appear attractive, rather than their actual size alone.

The same with overweight women I'm sure. If you have the energy and confidence, your body might not matter as much. Or perhaps there are even guys who find "curves" (as in chubby) as a turn on.

I'm wondering because I myself am a bit overweight, and, unfortunately i know I am a bit picky when it comes to a man's body - I want atleast SOME muscles, I find that healthy and masculine. But I shouldn't be so picky if I don't live up to a sexy image myself. But I really have no idea if they (more often) prefer trimmed or chubby girls! It might be more of a health/activity issue. A guy who is athletic and loves to hike or do sports will probably be searching for a girlfriend to share in those activities with him, without fainting! It might not so much be the body look itself, as the fact that he wants someone who will be able to keep up with him.... Does that sound about right?

My experience actually, thus far, with men (which is online only apparantly) seems to say that I have nothing to worry about with my looks. I hate my bodyshape, but I'm not hearing any complaints from the guys! They find me really hot apparantely.... And yet all I see are alot of thin actresses on TV.... So how do they get there in the first place, if men like a little cushioning sometimes too?

kind of bizarre huh....

I tend to like fairly slender bodies.
Certainly carrying less body fat than
I do (and people always tell me I'm
thin). But, I'm not partial to a certain
stretched out look that some thinner
people get.

I like the ones that are...I don't know...female? Soft and cuddly works for me.

Hah! See what I mean? Already we are at 50/50

Cool. Can't wait to see where this goes

Skinny like 5'3" and 95 -105 lbs.

No wonder the models are dying like flies trying to be size 0 lol.
Seems thin is the in thing.
I wonder why men like to hold females who are either matronly, or like little pre-pubescent girls.

In the case of aspies males their delayed social development likely leads them to be attracted to younger females and with bodies typical of younger girls. Myself I would prefer a women 17-25.

That would, actually, be kind of anorexic; but whatever floats your boat. A healthy/slender weight for a woman of 5'3" would be around 115 lbs.

It will be interesting to see where this thread goes. I know this wasn't asked, but I prefer a man who's on the higher end or even slightly overweight. My husband was WAY too skinny when we got married. Over the last 16 years of marriage, he's put on about 60 lbs. I think he's far more attractive now, even with the loss of hair.

I'm not attracted to a man who's TOO perfect. Are there men who feel the same way about women? I asked my brother and he said there was no such thing as a woman being too gorgeous for him.

Fah! My wife was 5'11" and looked her best when she weighed around
115 lbs. She was dancing for a living, and had pretty decent muscle
tone as well. And she didn't have a "pre-pubescent" body, I can
assure you. Just no flab, and fairly light bone structure.



I don't know what you mean by perfect. I certainly would NOT
choose someone who had flaws IN MY EYES over someone who
didn't. On the other hand, I tend to be attracted to women that
most guys don't seem interested in, as much.

I think for me relatively thin is fine. I'm not real particular on hair length or specific looks just because there's so many ways that can mix or match out to where a woman is physically beautiful - 90% of that even seems to be her style, vibe, personality, and if it all lines up artfully.

I'm another vote for soft and cuddly.

I like feminine qualities... which I guess is a fairly wide range.

Really there is so much variety, I can't just put a blanket statement saying "this is what I like, I don't like women who fall outside of 10% of this ideal."

I've said this kind of stuff before... but just a nice friendly face/smile means more than any part of their body.

I guess I like weight on women too, it's not a big deal really. The super skinny/buff women don't really do anything for me... but I don't care that much.

How they carry the weight matters a bit more than how much weight they have... I am not thin by any means... but I believe I carry my weight well and am not insanely overweight. It would be difficult to date someone who had much more weight than me...

Long hair is also very nice. But women can do so many nice things with their hair... in many varieties of hairstyles that I don't really care that much and just let them do their thing. Whatever they could do is going to be much better than anything I could even imagine them doing.

And honestly, super beauty is not even beauty in my eyes. The more homely... natural women... much more beautiful.

In terms of height... anything goes really. I guess I am not attracted to the extremely tall women... 6' 3"+ or something... but it's more how the rest of the body fills out that height. Just like weight... not a big deal.

It's probably more important from the other side of things... women seem to want to be shorter than men... so it may be difficult for me to be attractive to a very tall woman....

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I've been 118 at my height 5'9" so I have been anorexic. I've been 180+ now I'm like 152. Due to my high blood pressure I would like to shed some pounds.

Agreed.

I guess with height I tend to prefer 5'5 to 5'10. Although I'd never judge a shorter woman and I'd definitely still date somone who's 5'2" if I was really feeling em I think having someone who's close to the same height somehow adds something in terms of the sense of likeness. The direction I think I look for love in and also what I tend to find attractive in looks is related to the 'kindred spirit' sort of thing.

I've always been more attracted to a nerdy sort of nice guy (but not the super skinny ones), verses a muscle bound pretty boy. I guess I like the idea of seeing something in them that not everyone else does. Those guys that work out at the gym, and look like they think they're God's gift, instantly turn me off. I'm not attracted to the look in the first place, but their cockiness almost makes me despise them. I don't know that I'm actually attracted to flaws. At least, they don't feel like flaws to me. I find men with glasses and hairy chests attractive, whereas women who like perfect pretty boys would have them getting contacts and waxing. SHUDDER! A guy with a Greek God type of sculpted face and a body to match is just too perfect for me.