Do you often find people too inane to date?

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Not every woman I meet is too inane for me to tolerate, but most are.
I'm wondering if this is common among Aspies.

"Inane"
1 : empty, insubstantial
2 : lacking significance, meaning, or point

I find that most people have comfort issues. The biggest fear (not mine but for alot of people) is the fear of looking stupid. Perhaps the women you meet internalize this fear to the point of hiding who they really are.

How long do you give a person to come out of their shell? I myself prefer the 3 month rule. I give a person about 90 days to show me that they are more than just small talk and about fufilling their ids. Granted becoming attached to people is a problem of mine so I really have to discipline myself to follow this rule. Last year I wasted about 5 months of my time with a guy who would basically just fill my ears with meaningless chatter. Everytime I tried to get him to talk about anything of importance; from politics to his own future, he would become evasive and change the subject. He literally drove me to the breaking point where one day I just snapped at him. Needless to say he never bothered me again after that.

Well, I'm not talking about dating them first, and then finding out they're inane.
I'm talking about finding out they're inane while considering dating them.
I only deal with serious individuals.
I like women who have a silly side, like I do, but they need to not actually be silly, inane people.
There has to be some substance to them, some authentic wisdom that they live by.

every woman (but 2) I've met IRL is like that

I don't think it's strictly or even mostly an AS problem. It's a matter of compaitbility, so people need time to find out if and how well they can get along with the other person. That said, a lot of the people who make the most noise have the emptiest wagons. Look for the quieter ones and see if that helps.