WTF is wrong with Me?

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There is a very hot Turk after me... and I can't really seem to make myself be attracted.

I've only had one "classically" hot guy be interested in me before (i generally go for other looks, can't describe)... and this guy is hot like that too...

And my libido is nothing but a flatline...........

was dating someone else here (trying to get away from my unrequited crush, whom i work with)... and found out that person was "Seeing other people"...

and i just feel dead... loathing of all men.

but then the other day... here is this hot turk at my door! he's very fervent and kind of a loner... nice guy... see his family visiting him all the time (his apt is right across from mine)

just hope we can be friends and whenever this thing passes over me.... that his hot ass won't have found someone else.... which is kind of what i expect to happen b4 i get my stupid wits about me because this turk is a bit younger than me (especially for my age range... few yrs equals a lot more)... and given that he made it kinda clear he wants to date (just me lol, not like other guy)... i don't think he's personally had a lot of personal experience with not being "So gung-ho" to leap into things... and i think i may have just turned him off... but i can't help it cause i think i'd rather just hang out for now...


and that other guy i went out with a couple times (who was seeing others too)... seems to be showing interest too... even when i expressed to him that i'm not that into swinging or just whatever he wants to call it...

i dont know how to describe how i feel other than "unreceptive".... and i know if i did anything with either of these two prosespective suitors... that i'd be using them (which is fine with one of them!)... but that just doesnt appeal to me...

yet at the same time........ i'd rather have the object of my ~2yr obsession and would jump him at first possibility.

not sure what to do... but at least i dont feel so depressed about my obsession.

Trust your feelings.

Attraction based on looks rarely succeed. You want someone because your compatible with them, not because they look hot.

Seriously what would you rather have guy A who you don't like, and have little in common with but who's drop dead gorgeous or Guy B whose not all that goodlooking, but shares all of your same interests, hobbies, etc and you can have a great time with?

Sedaka, follow your heart's desire and if it does not work out, there will always a person who will become yours.

Sedaka,
Trust your instincts.
If he is a total jerk, there is someone looking for someone like you.

Looks are not an important part of attraction for me. They play a minor role, but personality and shared interests are more important.

It bothers me when people say things like, "You know you could get a more attractive guy. So why don't you?" I'm really happy in my relationship. We have the same interests, we make each other laugh, and we never fight. What more could I want?

Lucky you.

Lots of hot guys have left me cold. Lots of not-so-hot guys have made me hot.

It's only partly visual for me... it's also cerebral.

Also, any guy, no matter how hot OR how cerebral, can instantly kill my attraction to him by lighting a cigarette.

this isnt about looks...... i even said im usually attracted to "other" looks most of the time...

though im not gonna say i dont enjoy the more classical tastes either.

and we've hung out a couple times and seem to have a lot in common.......

everything SHOULD be a go... but it's not.


im still hung up over a sh***y situation and can't even seem to make myself get out of it when i have a super attractive/kindashy/young/foreign/nice momma's boy chasing after me.

that's the only reason i mention he's hot.

im not looking for true love... just trying to stop torturing myself over someone who doesnt care.

and given the perfect opportunity.......... i'm shirking