Sixteen too late?

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Nineteen and I've never had a boy-friend. Throughout high school, I basically made a committment to myself not to date anyone because high school relationships add a lot of unnecessary drama to the lives of people involved and it wasn't worth it to me. Now that I'm heading into my second year in university, it kind of seems wierd that I'm probably the only one who hasn't gone on a date or had a significant other before.

Personally, I think high school should be a time of learning about yourself and trying to get a good education (as best as one you can get in today's high schools!) and not worrying about dating or romance.

Don't worry. I was nearly 17 when I had my first. And one guy I know is 20 and he's not had a relationship yet. And he's NT. It's not an aspie thing, IMO. It's just a luck thing.

LoL!

I'm 22 and have never even been on a date. Apparently, some women have thought I'm nice or look attractive, but women's thinking process is just so different from my own that I can't, for example, anticipate when it is the right time to ask them out or even if they're open to be approached to begin with (as I have typically approached whomever I want in the past).

Don't worry. Dating or being in a relationship is one big farce these days.
I'm 17 and in a relationship but it's not a relationship until it becomes more geniuine.

Dude! I just turned 16! And I HAVEN'T been on a date! I eel that if you haven't got a gal now, that's just fine! Don't hate yourself! Here, let me give you some help for finding girls at school.

Do you keep seeing someone in a class? Well, go up to her, and say something like this:
"Hi. I'm (First Name). I've seen you in (Science/Math/English/History/Etc...) Class."
Give her time to talk, and don't talk about boring things (i.e.: The weather). If she notices something about you she likes (your shirt, kindness, etc...), expound on that. Say your shirt has a music star on it. She says something like "Hey, Wierd Al! He's awesome!" you say something like "I agree! What's your favorite song of his?" "I like You're Pitiful!"
After 4 days - a week of knowing her, ask her out. Have a date, place, and time set up. If she can't match the time and/or date, suggest the next closet.

Sorry if THAT was an info overload!

Don't worry man, my NT best friend hadn't really been on a date or had a real girlfriend until he was 26!
Your doing just fine, just keep practiceing talking to people and being at ease. No pressure is the key. It will happen, maybe not in highschool but then again alot of highschool romance tends to be shallow so thats not necissarily a bad thing. I think you'll be fine.

That is an excellent attitude to have!

Tim

There's plenty of time so please don't feel bad about not having had a date at age 16.

Actually, I've been in two relationships in the past. I got my first girlfriend at age 17. I am 27 now.

Tim

dont worry there r plenty more fish in the sea!! !

I'm 19 and haven't been kissed yet, or had a relationship.

boy,do i know the feeling...
but dont worry, youll get your chances soon enough.

I wasn't *allowed* to date at 16, why would you ever think time is running out? None of my friends are with the same person they were with at that age.

I didn't have a relationship until I was around 20

I started trying when I was almost 13... and ten years later the only thing I have to show for it is emotional baggage. Ten years is often said to be how long it takes to become an expert in a particular field. What does that make me?

If this is true: Those who can do... those who can't teach...

Then you should be a dating counselor...

er... yes that was a joke.