Is there any girls I can't freak out?

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Is there any females who could exchange messages with me, without me scaring them off, I bet there isn't, I always mess things up. What's wrong with me, when i'm open up at all, that's it. I can't be fake though, its just not me.

So you're challenging their egos now, eh? Some women go for that although I don't think this is the kind of ego challenge that creates desire.

I always screw things up too. We could be the screwup brothers...

The road to success is practically paved with mess-ups. We all do it.

Benjamin, I sometimes wonder the same thing. The funniest part about it though, it always when women who seem like they'd be perfect matches for me, personality-wise, looks wise (kind of both elegant and neurologically divergent), etc., who seem to see that themselves, just stop talking to me at random. Its particularly sad just because the women who do catch my interest like that and vice a versa are pretty few and it always seems like if I'd actually met them face to face from the word go rather than online things would have probably taken off.

I know, it sucks. Somehow I can creep people out without intending to.

The road to success is practically paved with mess-ups. We all do it.

Are you asking them for a cybersex?

I have that effect. Being yourself is the best option. That doesn't mean you can't change specific problem areas in time, but to try to be someone you're not with freak them out more.

Anxiety can effect things even when messaging.

You are never going to win everyone over. Bear in mind that not everyone is at the same stage in life or wanting the same thing at the same time. Everybody has preferences and a personality. 'Fault' is not something that is easy to determine, nobody could be to blame.

I am a hypocrite. I lost cut out people, I would stopping talking to them at random. I don't even have the answer why, in most cases it was me not them. Loosely you could say I couldn't handle it for whatever reason.

It was hardly possible for those that I got on well with and saw fairly regally contact me and get me to reply, if they could get hold of me at all. But it is quite common (and normal) for people just to want a break. One really valuable lesson I learned is there are different types of friends and that can be to do with compatibility and external factors. Some people just realize that they are not able sustain messages every day. I've felt like I just couldn't keep up with the pace, other times I just felt I couldn't talk to them on the same level, or I thought I came across as a (insert word). In a lot of cases just adjusting the frequency of the emails/messages was enough. Other times you just have to accept it won't work. Try not to take it as a personal rejection. I take it that way sometimes too. It is better you know it isn't working sooner, rather than it to be dragged out with pretence or games, however well intended. Honesty is the best way.