Anyone wish they could want to be single?

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All the time when I'm in relationships (and it's never going 100% smoothly because of, largely, communication issues and lack of understanding) I tell myself "That's it, when this is finally done, I'm just going to try and enjoy being single for a long time. I don't need girls, all they end up doing is bothering me, I have too much to concentrate on right now, etc etc etc."

I'm single again. I don't want to do it. Every time I see an interesting girl that I would like to get to know, I run with the idea for a little bit, "Yeah that would be cool, she seems pretty nice and level headed. Plus she's friggin hot, etc." and then I come to the realization that chances are, if I could somehow go over there and start talking to her, we'd probably end up irritating each other in the end.

I'm not saying I don't think relationships can work, I think I'm just trying to simlify this issue a bit for discussion.

But like, when I think about it logically, I have a lot on my plate with school, and working far away ('bout 1.5 hours total commute per work day), and I've recently been doing a lot of art and short stories... A girl doesn't really fit nicely into there. Or at least none of the girls I've dated in the past ^__^ (My friend pointed out they were all needy as hell, but still, I think I liked that? But I can't really begin to understand who I'm attracted to -- save that for another topic ).

Girls don't fit in my life right now, yet I'm always trying to find ways to start dating again.

Anyone else want to share experiences or call me stupid? Lol <3

There are some advantages to being single:

1. You can watch what you want on the TV when you want to. No more fighting over the remote and if you want to bring home a Jean Claude van Dam movie or a porn flick then go for it!

2. You can eat what you want when you want to and in helpings you decide.

3. Arranging vacations is easy, you don't have to sync your vacation times with a partner.

4. Don't want to do the housekeeping for three weeks, no problem.

5. Each Christmas you'll receive exactly the presents you wanted because you bought them (I'm assuming you have no relatives either).

6. It's cheap, girls are expensive and wives cost a fortune.

However, there's one tiny flaw in this fabulous plan. One day you'll be walking down the street and a girl walking towards you will drop her shopping. You'll bend down to help her and then BAM!! you're looking into a beautiful pair of eyes that have that certain twinkle. Next thing you'll be off on a romantic trip again and your single life will be a dim and distant memory.

Ed Almos

I think I've said about the same thing a half dozen times lately. There's the ideal of how a girl will be, and then there's reality. Most girls would just end up irritating me, and I'm indeed better off without them. I just can't give up on the idea, however, that there might actually exist girls who could be, beyond simply less irritating, true friends and partners. Some of the girls on this forum, for example, are very sharp and interesting, which is encouraging. They do exist.

I get the idea of being too busy to date, too. Particularly in the beginning of a relationship, a lot is demanded of you, and saying that you have a lot of work to do isn't going to be taken well. You can't just ditch the work, though, so.

Yep. I was 3 years into my "happily single forever" plan when this happened to me. He fits into my life perfectly. He listens when I tell him what I need. I'm still amazed one year later that I still find living with him just as easy as the day we started dating.

Or, next thing you'll be back in your room wondering why the **** you had to lose all composure at a critical moment when she got all freaked out at you...

I've been single for a year now. The first six months or so of it I was resentful and miserable and kept dragging myself out clubbing in a tiny skirt in a bid to make my luck change. But since then it has been AMAZING. Like everyone else I daydream, but I know really that I'm totally happy being single until I meet the right person, (in which case I'm definately up for a relationship).

It will take time for you to get used to living without physical affection like cuddles and stuff, and having her company. Then you forget what is was like and you just think, 'wow this is brilliant, I can spend all my time indulging in my interests and no one will even care I haven't shaved my legs'.

You're a guy though aren't you? Sorry.

Lol well yeah, but now I can not shave my face and do what I want with my hair and hear no complaints

Wow, I never thought being male was such a pitiful offense <33

Yeah, you can grow an 'arctic explorer' style beard, shave off one side of your hair, and then dye the whole lot bright orange just for kicks!

(Disclaimer - this may offend people other than potential love interests, namely your boss and your mother).

Well if I decide to quit my job I can live in my room and stop bathing...?

So far as I have some money saved up to pay for "rent" which I slide under the door, I don't think my parents would mind

(Note. I'm 20. Living at home isn't weird. Lol. The internet can get confusing <33)