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I believe I already know the answer to this question, but I want confirmation.

Does how much another guy likes you effect in any way whatsoever if you like him?


For example, lets say you like 2 different guys. You have dated them both and want to start a relationship with one of them, but not sure which. You weigh the pros and cons of both. If one guy likes you at an 90 on a scale of 1 to 100 and the other guy likes you at an 60, does that factor in any way with who you choose to start a realtionship with?

Well, I can't speak for the ladies, how much a woman likes me definitely has a positive effect on my feelings toward her. In fact, I've never really been interested in (actually) having sex with a woman who is not interested in having sex with me. Her interest is one of my biggest turn-ons.

Last edited by MrMark on 11 Dec 2007, 2:16 pm, edited 1 time in total.

That depends. LOL. If I like them equally, of course I would choose the one who likes me more. But if I already have a preference, then sorry, I'm stubborn and I'll go with the one I like over the one who likes me more. But I'm not speaking from experience...I wish I were, haha...

How much he likes me would definitely go on the pro list.

I'll pick the one who is least likely to make me insane in 4 years...of course I run the risk that no matter what choice I make... "I" will end up making "him" insane 4 years down the road anyways...

Of course it does.
If they like me, then they will try to do more to cause me to like them.

Based on this paragraph and this only, the answer is yes (for me). But in actual life, I think the answer is "It Depends"....

i loled

Ditto to that.

Only if she likes him back , if she doesn't like him in the first place nothing will make her to like him even if he sacrifices his own life for life. There's few exceptions for the rules tho ...for example making a sudden big wealth or fame or success would change a lot of things.

Making any large change that she finds attractive would suffice. Once, for me, it was as simple as the guy ceasing to obsess over me and displaying an edgier sense of humor.

This would only be true if the woman was superficial and a woman like that is not worth your time to begin with.
Money does not equate love.

I agree. I don't care about money, as long as the guy can support himself and isn't constantly asking me for money (been there, done that). I don't care about fame or "success" either.

Of course I care how much a guy likes me. I wouldn't want to be with anyone who didn't like me or was indifferent to me. If a guy obviously didn't like me but wanted to be my boyfriend anyway, I would question his motives.

I was 200% sure that you would quote that exact part of my post

Umm, rare that this would be the only criteria on which I'd evaluate them? I'd most likely chose on the basis of which I most enjoyed being with. But then, that *could* be affected by how into me they were - but more importantly how they went about expressing it. The first guy could either be charming and respectful, because he believed that was how I deserved to be treated, or he could cling to me, stop me seeing my friends, and try to bully me into taking things too fast before I was ready, and claim that its only because he loves me so much if I question it.

If he's the former, then great, I'd go for him.

I'm a guy, but this is very true for me: if a girl likes me, I start liking her almost automatically. I'm not a good-looking guy, so when a girl shows interest, I feel thankful someone likes me. So I start dating her. Of course, anywhere from 2 days to 2 weeks later, reality sets in, and I realize that she and I aren't compatible. If the differences aren't strong, I suck it up, and date her anyway. After all, with my bad looks, I can't afford to be picky with the people I date. But if the compatibility is extremely low, or the girl has character traits I know I can't deal with, I politely break up with her, before she has a chance to become too attached.

Yea, I don't want to waste my time with someone who's not interested. It also makes me feel used.