I have a crush on my boss!! :( but I don't want it~!

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I have a crush on my boss and i don't want to have it. I get so nervus talking to him about little thing regarding work. I stamer and I try not to show that I have a crush on him because It takes away from my work when i'm around him. And the sad part is I think that he knows that I like him and i'm afraid that he's uncomfertable about it or something because I also uncomfertable around him and he probably picks up on it. It's hard to explain the feeling, it's like tension or something.

He's 36 and a real hansome man and i know that he knows it and he uses his looks to make sales because the women swoon over him it seems like. And i'm only 19 and I try not to like him and not think about him and just when I thought I had a good day with him (by manageing my crush and conversing with him in a way that I feel is normal. seeming like I don't like him) The next day I revert back to the same shy, stamering, asking stupid question that I thought was a good conversation starter <ex:"if they invented makeup for men would you wear it?" Answer: "No". End>

But then he'll use like sexual iniuendos *spelling* and moves. Ex: saying the word "big weiner" (figuring thing) out loud and looking at me; telling me to use the biger screwdriver becauase "it's stronger and you can get a biger grip on it." he was chuckling and looking at me.; I told him I had scolioses and he said that his son had it and asked if he could see it and I showed it to him and he kept touching the area around my bra clip.

But then again I could just be over anylizing this stuff and I think he's just trying to get a kick out of me or something. But it all comes down to me trying to not like him~!

So any advise on trying to not have a crush on my boss!

I don't know about not having a crush on him, but if he was messing with your clip and making comments like that....well, i can't say that he likes you, he may just want in your bed.

ummm....don't let him kiss you or anything. It'll only cause problems, and 99.9% chance it won't end up "pretty" in the long run (personal experience).

He has a son so i'll assume he's married so double the not letting him do anything, or you doing anything, in even any mildly sexual maner (like kissing, standing too close).

From your description, he kind of sounds like a scumbag who's looking for a young woman to get with.

If you're as pleasant to look at as your avatar, I would not mind being your boss.

Seriously, though, nomnom_hamster could be right. Since you're 19 and, if you're attractive, he probably wants you in bed. Since he's your boss, things could get complicated.

I use to get nervous in front of good looking women all the time. I didn't start being successful in controlling my reactions until my early 20s. From my experience, you should continue practicing controlling yourself, even if you keep failing. Slowly you're going to get better. In the mean time, hope for the best and be careful.

Are you really crushing on him or do you just think he's physically attractive? He just sounds like a jerk. I guess you could reflect on that. I don't see what could be attractive about him. What is it you see in this guy?

I regret every crush I ever had

You could try by not associating so much with him...I understand these things are hard! but you'll just probably have to ride it out and see if it passes.

Selena

This is just a natural alpha male's effect ...he sounds to be an alpha male (handsome guy ,girls' magnet,confident , successful...) . He's way older than you tho and he might exploit you ....well you are adult anyways ,it's your choice.

Hmm. my "Evil Male Chauvanist Pig Scum Bag" dectector has just gone off.

Mirror, ignore him, get him out of your mind, do whatever it takes, but this has just gone from the "He's handsome and I think that I have a crush on him," department, to "This is going to be a major distaster and ruin my life forever," detector.

If you saw the movie, employee of the month............

He's touching you? Creep alert!

^^ nah , the poor man is just checking her back and trying to know how bad her scoliosis is. Awwwww :angel:

Well, honestly no one can help you here ....if you want to stop these feelings toward him only you can stop these feelings . Just put your brain back in your head and voilà! problem solved , of course unless if you are willing to become an another lover of the boss.

He's 36 and you are 19.
He also has a son.

It's your call.

You're my age. Are you in Britain? Can I touch your bra strap too?

He's bad news. Stay away.

agreed