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I don’t honestly know if this girl actually fancies me. Other boys in my class say all this stuff that I’m taking her to “the prom” and f*****g her after. But the thing is does this girl really like me? I’m afraid to ask her, cos she’ll tell everyone else this. I think she likes me because of the way she looks at me etc. I might ask her, but I’m afraid of what she’ll say. As well I don’t know if I’m going to her to “the prom” or having sex after.

What do you think?

If you're taking her to the prom, it's probably a good idea to get that clarified sooner rather than later. It might be difficult to get a tux and a corsage at the last minute.

As to whether or not you're having sex after, you probably won't find out until the last minute. Plan ahead and buy a condom.

Whoa, slow it down man. One step at a time.

Ask her first, ASAP, before it gets awkwardly late or someone else does. Then u can think about what might happen later. Just don't psych yourself out with self-doubt & sit on the sidelines all day.

Just have sex with her and save the money from the prom...

Kidding.

Man, you are going to come off like an as*hole with this attitude.

You don't know if she fancies you. DON'T expect anything. You're taking her to the prom, and that's it. Don't think any further ahead. Buy a condom, sure, but honestly I carry one with me anywhere I go because you never know what will happen. Don't just try and f**k her in the back of the limo or something just because that's what other people are expecting you to do. If a moment comes where you think you should try to kiss her, then go for it. But don't try too hard in case she doesn't fancy you and you end up making an ass of yourself.

Alternative, if you want to play it safe just be nonchalant and interest-neutral. Kinda laugh about what everyone's been saying as you talk to her (maybe a slight shot at everyone else about making her business and yours a huge broadcasted thing), but let her know that if she does just wanna go and have a good time that you'd be more than happy to take her. If you can keep her from feeling ill at ease and make her feel like it would be fun, that's really where its at. If she does turn you down, you really lost no face either if you approached it with as much dignity.

Whoa, here. First, ask her nicely to prom. The worst that could happen is she says no. Or has already agreed to go with someone else, which gets more and more likely every day you wait. If she's making eyes at you, she probably, but not definitely, likes you.

As for the sex after, that's just peers teasing you. DO NOT assume that is part of the package if she agrees to go with you. I'm a girl - I went to 3 proms and some other formals and would have been totally through with my date if he expected action afterwards (unless he was my boyfriend and we were already sexually active). Then I would have told every girl I knew to watch out for you. Sure, bring a condom just in case if you want, but don't let her see you have one unless she's already agreed to sex. And don't bring up sex until the end of the night, and after you've already rounded second base if you get that far.

What is "second base" these days?

lol - pandabear, you always want more details from me! It's vague, but I think generally it's touching girl parts or boy parts. I think some people would say over clothes, some would say under.

Now I have "Paradise by the Dashboard Lights" stuck in my head!

2nd base is a Bullwinkle, home run is giving her the Angry Pirate.

What is it, and why is it called a Bullwinkle?

Heh, I could tell you but I think I'd have to PM.

Sorry, for delayed reply, and this topic is a waste of time.

I asked her a day after I posted this, and she said she's going to the prom with someone else and shes got a boyfriend. Some other kid said that she does fancy me, but its not that likely.

I am a a***hole, because people are such a***holes to me that I don't know any better.

I really couldn't give a s**t anymore. And to be honest I don't know why I posted this. Delete it, if you like.

Also, I know they're teasing but because of the way I am, I laugh at it when they tease me, but I have what is known as "hot thoughts".

Frankly, they're annoying.

Hey, I know what it's like to get that sort of teasing. It might bother you, but don't let anyone at school learn this. Keep your annoyance and humiliation to yourself, as best as you can. There's no fun in making fun of people when they don't react.

And regardless of what people say, you're not an as*hole just for asking her to the prom and being a little clueless. Asking her in the first place was a good thing to do and if you hadn't you would have regretted it. As for the cluelessness which someone else pointed out, that'll clear up with more social experience.

Hey, try not to feel too bad if people are trying to "take the piss" out of you. It says more about them than it does about you.

Enigmatic_Oddity is totally right. You didn't do anything wrong.

Maybe you should try to figure out who your friends really are. Friends wouldn't set you up to look dumb. If these people are just trying to make you feel bad, they're not your friends so don't listen to them.

Also curious to know what "hot thoughts" are.